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My 16yr old son has mates that have their P’s and drive him around. I will not allow my 14yr daughter to go in a car with a P plate driver. She thinks this in unreasonable. Is it?

Posted anonymously, 9th November 2021

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  • Nope not at all. stick to your guns mumma. 14 is still too young to be in a P platers car. Too much can go wrong.

  • You are not being unreasonable. P platers have such minimal experience and are so easily distracted.

  • It all depends on the driver and if they are responsible behind the wheel. It’s scary to think of but if you could discreetly find anyone else who’s seen him driving it might help to ease your mind.

  • I don’t think it’s unreasonable – I think back to when I was starting to drive and would only have 1 other (adult) in the car with me. It can be very distracting when first starting to drive.

  • I will not allow my kids to do that.It is quite hard to deal with teenagers.

  • The law here says a P plater under 25 years of age can only have one other passenger between 16 and 25., so the intent to minimize the number of young passengers carried by a novice driver is there in the law. While your daughter is only 14 I would not let her get used to having a ride. In fact it would be rather strange because the unrelated P-plate driver would have to have her as the only passenger. I think there are provisions for older siblings carrying younger siblings, but that is it. Show your daughter the law perhaps.

  • Ooh, I’m not sure what state this is in reference too. Here in Vic, P platers are 18 to 21, so I do know of P platers driving younger family members around.

  • its not unreasonable as the P plater wouldnt have enough experience

  • I think it is a little unreasonable provided the other kids are only 17 and perhaps there are other kids going too? You can’t really have one rule for your son and another for your daughter. They are only two years apart. I think the only way out of this is to have the ultimatum of you need to meet the friends first, be satisfied that they are safe drivers and they have safe vehicles – if that is all good then I think it’s fine. Either that, or you can meet her halfway and say that she is allowed to when she is 15.

  • It’s fair! Young people (especially red P platers – I’m in Vic) have the highest crash rates of any drivers, scarily high actually. I had a nasty crash too at that age. It sounds like you are protecting your young teen!

  • Not unreasonable at all! Unless I trusted the driver I probably wouldn’t allow my kids in the car also.

  • I would be worried as well…..it is a tricky question to answer. All teenagers are different. Go with your gut.

  • It does depend a little on the driver, and on who else is in the car. But in general, it’s probably not unreasonable as P platers are less experienced and more distractable.

  • You are not being unreasonable at all! Safety first, P-platers have rules one other person and that’s enough distraction for them to cope with. Her time will come just like her brother’s time came with his friends. Soon her brother could be driving her around and that will be ok. I made sure that all my kids did five lessons with a driving school (5 hours of tuition) then I took over for the rest of their 120 hours of driving lessons. I want them to be responsible drivers, respectful of all the rules and never let anyone in the car that should not be.

  • I don’t think it is unreasonable at all, in fact I would be reluctant to let the 16 year old too. My son had a horrific accident within two weeks of getting his licence & although he was a good driver, they are completely inexperienced in the big picture. It was a cold night & he hit some black ice, panicked, over-corrected & ended up hitting a tree. If he had a passenger in the car with him that night, they would not be here today :(

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