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After a nasty break up I sought advise from a lawyer and had things drawn up. I was advised I would be entitled to 60% of everything, but being kind-hearted I agreed to an amount of much less thinking this would make things easier for both parties. The agreement hasn’t been finalised and I wanted to make changes but my lawyer who is also acting for him hasn’t gotten back to me. Is it to late to change?

Posted anonymously, 28th January 2015

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  • I see this is an old question. Did you end up getting a different lawyer ?

  • Isn’t it a conflict of interest to have the same lawyer represent both of you? I didn’t think lawyers could ethically do that.

  • I feel like you need to have a lawyer who has your best interests at heart. They can’t objectively be doing that if they are representing you both.

  • Isn’t it a conflict of interest having the one lawyer representing the two of you? I’m surprised the lawyer agreed to work for both of you. J would seek advice from another lawyer

  • if unsure a phone call for some external advice may be worthwhile.

  • Never too late if you haven’t signed. It’s your choice. A lawyer will advise you of your rights, but he can’t make you. Try him again saying you need him to get back to you by Friday, or something. It’s your life, this matters, your paying big money for a lawyer. If you have doubt take business else where.

  • have separate lawyers not same one cannot be detached if both of you are his /her clients. As nothing has been signed you have right to seek further advice. Check with Law society or legal aid so you are certain. Bad time but it will pass but get best advice and support possible

  • I would have thought it was unethical to the lawyer to take instructions from both of you. I know somebody who has always used the same Lawyer. Somebody did the wrong thing and when he went to see his lawyer the other party had got there first, knowing full well that he always used that lawyer.

  • I would definitely seek a second opinion elsewhere. There is a conflict of interest for your lawyer to be acting for both you and your ex-partner. Don’t sign anything until you get further independent legal advice!

  • I didn’t think lawyers could act for both parties. DEfinitely seek some more advice.

  • I’m really surprised to hear you both have the same solicitor acting for you – thats a huge conflict of interest and puts all three of you at risk. If you can get your original agreement bedded down and you were/are satisfied with it, I would get it resolved asap before it starts to get ugly and sucks away huge amounts of money in legal costs.

  • Yeah definitely a conflict of interest here. I’d get a new lawyer for sure. Good luck

  • I have to agree fully with Flackstar!
    I got nothing except my kids and their dad seems to think he’s hard done by now having to pay child support!
    Get a new lawyer and sue the one that he has as it’s a conflict of interest for him to be acting for both parties.

  • It seems very wrong for a lawyer to be acting for both parties. Your best interests may not be being protected. Pursure him for a conversation about this before making a decision about changing.

  • Make sure you do what it best for your future!

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