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Hi everyone I’m after some advice please. My sister recently got engaged and I’d love to go to her wedding but the problem is my mum will probably be there too. We haven’t spoken in years since she disowned me and bad mouthed me to my family and her friends. I’ve had to cut her off completely because we can never talk without it becoming an argument as she refuses to listen. I’m worried that if I go to my sister’s wedding my mum will start drama while I’m there. What should I do?

Posted by Kat796, 4th May 2021

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  • If you love your sister, I say go. Avoid your Mum, and be respectful. It only happens once, and it’s all about your sister and her big day. Maybe talk to your sister about it, and organise to for you and your Mum to be on tables very far away from each other. But it’s your life and your family. If you can talk to your sister, that’s a great place to start.

  • I would speak to your sister about your concerns and ask her to not seat you anywhere near your mum. Enjoy the day, be there for your sister, be polite to your mum with just a hello, and don’t engage in any conversations with her as it could escalate and it is not the time or place to argue.

  • Yes I agree that you should go. Your sister has invited you both and considers you both as important in her life. I would keep distance from your mum, but would she come up to you and start a conversation than I would keep it just superficial ad don’t btrspond on any negative messages you may want to respond on. You could practice this in role play. Write your fears down and possible things your mum may say and practice with someone you know well the answers you could give.

  • You need to find a way to put aside your differences for the day- your sister loves you both and wants you both there. Maybe ask your sister to tactfully talk to your mother and tell her to behave herself and I’m sure the 2 of you could avoid each other on the day.

  • I think that definitely you should go, just keep your distance from your mum. Hopefully she won’t start a commotion. Good luck xo

  • I don’t know what your Mum is like but I do know some people who can make drama like no tomorrow. I’d say(depending on your relationship with your sister) talk to your sister and let her know you are a little worried about the Mum factor and something happening to interfere with her special day. I’m sure if it’s old news, she will have thought of it already. I’m sure if you mention it, you can make sure to be seated away from her to have as little contact as possible and just be there for your sister/enjoy your time – ignore your Mum. As hard as it can be.

  • This is a real tricky one. I hear ya, as I am estranged from my sister and have chosen not to attend events. It depends on your relationship with your sister and how close you are with her. Don’t let your Mum scare you away if you really want to be there. Just see if you can arrange it that you’re not sitting anywhere near her.

  • Kat796 you should definitely go to your sister’s wedding. Just don’t get into an argument with your mother, if she has something to say, smile, be polite, walk away if you have too and enjoy the beautiful day.

  • It is entirely up to you if you go or not to the wedding but it is your sisters day and she wants you to be there, but it is up to you to make a effort to be there for her.

  • I would go, for the sister. It’s her one special day so don’t let this thing between you and Mum stop you..you may regret it later for not attending. Just try to avoid your Mum (if possible).

  • It takes two to argue. Zip it for your sisters sake!! It’s one special day that again telling the world via forums shows you need to take a step back. A big breath and let you sister shine.

  • I would speak to your sister and tell her you want to go, take someone that can run interference if it looks like your Mum is going to cause some drama.

  • Yes 100 per cent you should go to your sister’s wedding you Don’t have to talk to your mother believe me you will live to Regret it if you don’t go don’t spoil her wedding by not going

  • I think you should definitely go to your sisters wedding.As for your mum you can say a polite hello but if there is trouble walk away so there is no drama for your sister.

  • I’d go but just try and avoid your mum like the plague.
    There might be some tension but I think your sister would want you there.

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