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I’m having my third bub which will be my second homebirth. My oldest son is 9 will be nearly 10, and he wants to stay home for the birth. He wanted to last time but we weren’t sure how it would be. It turned out to be a very peaceful birth with no screaming or anger. I think it would be fine for him as it’s something he wants and keeps asking – it’s never been offered. But my partner thinks it’ll scar him.

Posted by anon, 24/06/2013

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  • I think it’s a lovely idea.
    I’d just keep him at your top end to avoid any unwanted topics to be discussed too early for his age. But if your open with all things anatomically, then do as you please

  • Afraid I’m an adult an don’t think I could handle it .. I’d have to agree with your husband .. I think it’s a little young personally

  • I think it would be good for him. Maybe watch some DVDs involving childbirth with him, see how he copes with them and go from there

  • yes definitely my cousins have done it and the whole family being involved has made it such a more than wonderful experience for all of them. especially in the birthing baths .

  • If it what he wants, by all means. Have an option for him, if it’s all to scary. Have a grandparent or aunt on hand to take him if he’s not in to it.

  • If he wants to let him. Have him in a certain position that he can see but not see too much.

  • hard call, i wonder what you did, not sure i would have

  • It’s a personal choice but it’s not something I would subject my child too. Witnessing too much pain & blood

  • What did you end up doing and how did it go?

  • From personal experience watching someone you love give birth can be quite upsetting. I watched my sister when I was younger and I was crying because she was in so much pain and I couldn’t help her. It took me a long time to get over and gsve me s real fear of childbirth

  • i guess you have had your baby by now what did you decide

  • how did it go? :)

  • That really would be a personal choice – only you would know your son well enough to decide whether it would scar him. And he could always leave the room if there were problems.

  • Did he end up watching the birth?

  • A decision your partner and yourself need to make. What have you decided?

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