“I was wondering you could help me get some advice (anonyomously) My sister and I have a terrible relationship. She is 10yrs younger than I and we have very little in common, I moved out of our family home at 18 and had my first son about 3months afterwards. Now I am 31 and have 5kids of my own and she is 21 and still childless. I dont be-grudge her doing any “young and single” things, but my hubby and I decided after a long running string of oh sorry I forgot” that we would include her less as she clearly wasnt intrested, then finally decided not to bother at all after she abused me for calling for her partners birthday – although she never remeber any of ours!!Suddenly after a few changes in her life (moved back in with parents and is suddenly single) she is making a huge effort…buying birthday presents for the kids,sending emails and offering to catch up for lunch. My problem is – do I try again to start a relationship with her despite how hurt i was previously when she wasnt intrested? Do I stay wary believeing this changes are prompted by living with our parents and willl/may fall by the wayside when her life changes again? OR do I go with the “that ship has sailed – you cant abuse me for making an effort, then expect it all to be rosy when you want/need it to be” Should I mend my relationship with my sister?