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“My little man has been sleeping next to me in a bassinet since he was born 3 and a half months ago, he has just started to roll from his tummy to his back during tummy time so it won’t be long until I will have to take him from his bassinet to his cot. Even before I was pregnant I envisioned having my baby close to me for the 1st 12mths, so here is my dilema: The cot is in his room and I would like to move the cot into our room so that bub is still close to me. When I was telling one of my husband’s friends this he said “don’t do that, you want to make a man out of him not a mummy’s boy”. Maybe I am being selfish because when bub is not near me I miss him so much so moving the cot into our bedroom is all about me and not what is right for bub. But then a part of me thinks I’m not selfish because if bub wakes during the night I hear him before he cries. I don’t know what to do now should I move the cot or just start putting bub in his room.”

Posted by anon, 17/5/2013


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  • It really is your own decision. I found that once bubs became more aware of noises that it was better to put them in their own room so that I didn’t wake them when going to bed or when I roll over in the night etc. Mine were close to 12 months when they moved to their own room.


  • I liked having my babies right next to me,if they kicked off there blanket,or where sick they are right there & you can fix them up right away.I would keep my baby near me if I was you,you can keep your eye on them better & make sure they are OK.If you have had a sick kid vomiting you are reassured they are OK cause you hear every sound & can see to them quickly.So tiny & precious better close by mum!


  • Cool! There are some really interesting comments on this!


  • Sids and kids website recommend 12mths in your room but if it doesn’t work for you then don’t do it. My friend moved her child to her own room withint the first few months as she found the bub was noisy and keeping them awake! It seems like a big step but often the next room isnt that far away. I’d be reserved around husband’s friend, sure he probably meant well but I’m less than impressed with his comment.


  • I moved my son into his own room at 4 months of age.
    While I was breast feeding, I kept him in the bassinet beside my bed.
    He self weaned and was waking due to his fathers snoring.
    Moving him to his room was great for us all.


  • do what you feel is right for you, eventually moving cot into own room too,as a mum I know you will hear if he cries it is true for me, even in a crowd of kids I could hear my own s cry it is something we do you see. Make sure his room has interesting things to see and do like mobile over bed and toys too
    not that want this car but looks swish


  • What an absolute clown to suggest having baby in the same room would make a mummy’s boy or that to have a Mummy’s boy is a problem! I know this post is quite old now, but to anyone who is concerned about this issue, it is current recomendation that all children share a room (not a bed) with a parent until they are 12 months or older. And I have no doubt that this toddler is now a gorgeous, mischeious, cheeky little man who keeps his mummy on her feet and is pushing boundaries, starting to string some sentances together, likes to cuddle, and explore. Pfft Mummy’s boy. Cuddle him often, share a room for at least 12 months, and enjoy those young years.


  • i kept both my children in my room until around one :) i loved having them in there with me! x


  • oh this is your choice, and do not feel you are not making a man out of your baby as he is just a baby and should be treated that way!


  • Do whatever suits you. Many families all over the world live in one bedroom homes and their Boy’s grow up just fine. My kids all had their cot in my room for as long as they liked. Their big bed was in their room ready for them to move in when the time was right, without any problems. No mummy boy’s here just ones that know they are loved and respected.


  • you have to do what you are comfortable with but I would suggest in their own room


  • Once they are mobbed into your room it is very very hard to move them back out! I would suggest moving him out while he is still little so he doesn’t get used to sleeping next to you.


  • Our boys were always in their own room, we wanted them to get use to that straight away.


  • You don’t want bub to get into a habit you will find hard to break … maybe this is the time to move him


  • my girl is alomost 1 and stil sleeping with me :P


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