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My little girl turns 7 on January 30 and my partner doesn’t want to have a party because there isn’t much time to plan and get RSVP’s from school friends.
He’s afraid no one will show up especially since she didn’t get invited to any party’s at all this year. None of the other parents like my partner or I so they don’t seem to want our child to come to stuff.
Should i try to convince my partner to still have a party?

Posted by stepmom107932, 15th December 2014

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  • Just saw this but I hope she ended up having a party with other kids showing up.
    It’s heartbreaking how cruel some people can be but I also hope that things have changed and she is now being included.

  • I think the decision should be up to your daughter, not your husband. I do hope she was happy and that she has started making friends.

  • I would let her have a party, even if it’s just a couple of friends.

  • Obviously your daughters birthday has passed but if the same situation arises next year why don’t you let her have a sleep over at your home with a few of her friends.

  • I think birthday parties shouldn’t happen every year. For all ages I think a party every 2/3 years is fair and fun. How many bday parties has your child had so far??

  • Parties can be fun, and an ordeal. If you foresee complications outside of general child chaos then avoid it. Don’t put any stress on the situation. A special friend to iceskating or park, sleepover or home made fun like girly makeovers or pirate costumes with

    Pizza or burgers is great with one friend.

  • Maybe just wait till school goes back each year and have the party around the end of Feb. We have our January babies party in Mid-December each year as it is very hard to get anyone to come in January. They often forget or are away.

  • What does she want to do? That is the key and then work form there. Sometimes kids whose birthday falls in the summer holidays choose a date mid-year and celbrate then.

  • We never had childrens’ parties. We had a birthday tea/party with relatives including some we didn’t see very often. We had a good time, and no stress and extra expense for our parents. Having a Dad with a lot of war injuries he spent a lot of time either in hospital or home recovering. Most years his sick leave ran out. Looking back there was a house mortgage to pay, basic nutritious food that my parents couldn’t grow, school expenses, a small car to use when necessary (my Grandma had Glaucoma – almost blind and Cancer) hospital visiting hours were at night and a long walk from bus – not easy with 2 little tired children. Sometimes Mum walked to the shops rather than take the car. She would buy groceries one day, meat another and F&V on another. Mum made all our meals, cake, biscuits etc., icecream in summer. She also made some of our clothes. So you can understand why we didn’t have kid’s parties and never missed what we didn’t have.

  • I would try and arrange prior or telling her, that way if they can’t make it then she won’t be let down.

  • Yes. Just go to the local park with a free BBQ and fire it up with some cheap sausages / rolls and drinks / snacks from Aldi. Cheap and easy!

  • I have just gotten my kids a big pressie this year and no party. I got them an ifly gift card from Costco for indoor skydiving for $89 each and they will go together.
    Maybe take her away on her holiday and have a special night out for dinner.
    Or just have dinner out – I took my 9 year old son to All you can eat with my family – nieces and nephews and he absolutely loved it (everyone paid for themselves)

  • how about take cakes to school on the 1st day back to school, this way she gets to have a “small celebration” with her new class mates.
    Then that week back give out 5 invitations to go to the local park or pool, this way its not at your place so (no mess for you ) and she still gets to have fun invite a few family members to. Think parents make birthdays a big deal and they just want to have fun at the park or pool any way.

  • I would take into consideration that as you stated the other parents do not like you both and your little girl was not invited to any parties all year an indicator that your little girl would be crushed to be looking forward to a party and no one attending. Does she have any friends at all? I would be concerned if she has been at school all year and not made any friends. Perhaps you may like to as her teacher about this. Perhaps because her birthday it is during vacation time you could send an invitation now and explain that she will have a belated surprise party once school is in and settled. I would have the party at a park or a pool or trip to a zoo, something that would be attractive to the other children and where there would be other children if not many or none show up.
    Does your little girl have friends away from school? Is she in any sporting or dance or swimming classes or clubs?

  • Maybe just think of other ways to may her birthday special, you can just plan a big day out or organise a small party with just the family and close friends. It is hard to plan when you don’t have so much time. And you don’t want your daughter to be dissapointed when nobody from her school turns up.

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