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I have an 8 month old and I have started working fulltime so we can move out of home, but I just feel so guilty being away from him all the time. Does anyone else experience this mummy guilt?

Posted by lisahhau, 14th March 2014

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  • Hell yes! Any mum worth her salt feels guilty about a multitude of things when her kids are involved. I used to feel guilty having my kids babysat for a few hours, it must be so much harder for you. But you know you’re doing it for the greater good of you both. So keep it up, you’re doing a great job

  • I think it is normal to feel like this, especially if you’ve had something traumatic in recent past or bad relationship, that makes you doubt yourself. Guilt is never a good thing. It can hamper your energy etc. I’d really suggest trying to work it out and get rid of it – journal, counselling, meditation etc. because it could stop you enjoying the time you do have with your child.

  • As a single mum of three I can understand to a certain degree. I work four days a week and continually feel guilty for this. I then think if I wasn’t working they would not have the little extras in life I can provide. We still have movie afternoons on the weekends and cook meals together, creating memories.

  • It must be very hard being a single Mum with such a young bub but you should be so proud of yourself for what you are doing!
    It is hard right now & you feel like you are missing out on special time but you are providing yourself & your child with a better future!
    Your child will appreciate what you are doing when they are older & you will feel so much better once you move into your own home.
    Keep going love, not many single Mum’s can or would do what you’re doing.
    You’re an inspiration & should be very proud of yourself!

  • All the time, you just need to remind yourself you are doing what is best for you both in the long run and when you get moments together make them that more special.

  • What you are doing is good! You are trying to set up a stable life for you and your child. You are doing what is best for both of you. Hold your head high!

  • Its very hard being a single mum both on you and your child do you really need to work fulltime they are only little once! Im a single mum to and I only work 2 days a wk and love having a bit of time to myself even if im just working. you got to do what you have to. best of luck.

  • Every. Single. Day. And sometimes well meaning people make comments that just make it harder. The questions are always there. Am I doing the right thing? What if I…? Would it be better if I…? And it’s the hardest thing, this being a mummy thing. I have to consciously try to stop my thoughts because they end up causing me to get so stressed out that some days I can go from being Mary Poppins to Cruella DaVille and then I have the added guilt of how I’ve talked to my little men. It is tough. But you have to believe you’re doing what’s best right now. If you’ve got good care for your bub and your goal is to make a better life for you both, trust in that. Do what works for you, and try, and I know it’s hard sometimes, not to take on board what other people think you should be doing with your life. It’s easy for people to comment, it’s hard to live in it and try to be superhuman. I’m sure you’re a great mum (otherwise you wouldn’t have worried enough to put up a question), hang on to that, and remind yourself that you, doing what you can to be a single mummy holding it all together, are doing a great job.

  • Not that I’m a single mum, however I went back to work as soon as my maternity leave was over and never once felt guilty. Our daughter benefited from my income, perhaps you should try and look at what you are doing like that, nothing to feel guilty about.

  • i know its hard but remind yourself your doing it for him and cherish the time you are home

  • Yep, being away from our kids can really be an emotional time, but we need to do it. The sad thing is we miss so much of their growing when we are away working

  • It’s normal to feel a little bit guilty. Just remember that you are doing what’s best for both of you.

  • TBH I have three girl, im at at home mum and I would Love to be a mum that works. How I miss be able to enjoy life out in the workforce making a living.

  • It is hard but you have to keep reminding yourself you are doing this to improve your situation and you will be creating a better future for you both. Just make sure you enjoy the time together when you have it. Kids grow up and they appreciate all you do.

  • how are you going now

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