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Doctor getting assessment done scared he has autism ????

The speech therapist said he eye contact was poor at times but she only assessed him for a few mins and said that I find his eye contact at home is much better, pointing as well to what he wants he has done it, but it’s limited, and when you call his name his response can be limited it’s hard for me to know because he has definitely got a stubborn side to him also, He is only 21 months now I’m so scared of what we could be facing.


Posted anonymously, 27th January 2021


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  • He’s still so young and is learning new things every day.
    My daughter is currently 22 months and wont hold eye contact when she is shy or with people she doesn’t know. It’s totally normal.
    She is also stubborn and purposely ignores you when she is asked to do something but she’s hitting the ‘terrible two’s’ and that is to be expected with so many children around this age.

    But whether he has autism or not, that shouldn’t be something to panic over.


  • Whatever it is, you’ll cope with it, us mums love our kids and will move heaven and earth for them


  • Don’t be scared. He is still your son who you love. My son wasn’t diagnosed until he reached 25 and that’s when we found out he has a mild case of autism and ADHD. I was just happy that we finally found out why he does certain things. He is still the same boy I loved when he was a baby. You just need to take one day at a time and maybe join a Mother’s group with children in the same situation. You can do this.


  • I didn’t think a nearly 2yo was even able to be speech assessed. My boy was 4 1/2 before a speech pathologist was suggested


  • Don’t be scared, you need information and action. I fought the systems for 10 years until my son was diagnosed with Aspergers. I always knew he was different (in a good way), and have been my son’s biggest advocate. You need to do that too. Don’t be afraid though. He may or may not. You’re lucky, you could receive early intervention. I missed every bit of help available in the early years. Just work with your GP and tick everything off. You know your child best.


  • Can’t help you with advice but thinking of you and your little one.good luck


  • My boy is five, I have suspected he has ADHD and autism for many years. I was always told he was “normal” and everything is a phase. He is FINALLY finally getting assessed. He is ticking a lot of boxes for autism. I am not worried by it. At the end of the day our lives will be much easier when he IS diagnosed. It’s not a bad thing, it’s just different. My son is also a genius. In fact most highly intellectual people are diagnosed as autistic, their brains function on a different wavelength to others and quite often they don’t fit into or understand norms, because they have other, more important stuff to think about. All the best to you and your boy.


  • Wait til you get the answer. What will be will be and you can’t change it, you can only acceptit. And you might be worrying over nothing. Whatever happens, you will manage and have a great life


  • It’s good to get these things checked and then if you need support they will be able to help you with that.


  • Hi mama, please try not to be scared. My 4 year old has autism and one thing I have been super grateful for is that those potential signs have been picked up early! Early intervention can be an absolute game changer to kids who need extra support :)
    21 months is very young to suggest autism, are there any other signs you are concerned about? Please make sure to get all the answers you feel you need during this journey so you are better prepared with any further questions or supports you may need to gain access to. <3


  • Despite a diagnosis you’ll still work with them in regards to their strengths and weaknesses like any other child ???? plus finding out early will get you lots of help to support development. The NDIS has opened up many doors for early intervention


  • Probably best to get it checked if there are some red flags in his behaviour and development. Better to know earlier so you can do early intervention.


  • I had something similar with my youngest although they had me at hearing specialists instead of testing for austism, She didn’t really start talking until just after she turned 3 and started daycare, she would say small words but wouldn’t talk back to people or look at them but as soon as she started i think it all kind of clicked for her and she started going almost straight to full sentences but the stubborn is strong in her.
    If you’re not comfortable as a parent having him assessed so early then follow your instincts and just wait a while, he could just be silently taking it all in.


  • I agree with Stephsingh87 that speech delay alone is not the only indicator of Autism. think it’s a bit hard to say without a proper diagnose from an experienced health professional, but it’s good to have this checked. I can imagine the uncertainty is a bit scary. Wishing you love and strength, xx


  • Hi The speech therapist said he eye contact was poor at times but she only assessed him for a few mins and said that I find his eye contact at home is much better, pointing aswell to what he wants he has done it, but it’s limited, and when you call his name his response can be limited it’s hard for me to know because he has definitely got a stubborn side to him also, He is only 21 months now I’m so scared of what we could be facing


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