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Over the past 6 months my husband and I have been fighting over everything and I have just had enough! I am so embarrassed to think that after such a short time together (3 years) we may not be the right the fit. I just don’t know what to do from here…I keep expecting things to change but they never do.. I’m just scared to throw it all away.. How do you know when its not right?

Posted anonymously, 27th May 2014

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  • Maybe some time apart might help you see things more clearly. Maybe just a holiday or you could go for a trial separation. Not sure what else to suggest

  • Only you can decide when you’ve had enough and font want things to go on as they are. But maybe counselling first would help make things clearer for you

  • I think an impartial counsellor will be able to get to the root of the problem and perhaps find a solution for you both. It’s worth a try before throwing in the towel.

  • I can’t recommend counselling enough! Most marital issues have poor communication as a root cause because we just can’t express how we really feel to one another. Counselling helps clarify and aids in communication so you can better understand where your relationship us and whether or not to make that decision to stay or go

  • Go to a marriage counsellor before giving up as it is too easily done these days . Either way it is not easy

  • You know in your heart if it is right or not,hope everything works out for you.

  • I think counselling would be a fantastic option.
    My ex & I broke up after 2 years, we were engaged – and now we are both having children with other people & regret the decisions we made, we wish we were still together.
    So don’t leave unless you’re sure, but don’t stay unless you’re sure either.

  • Good Luck, I can totally understand how you feel, my partner and I can go through patches where I think we would be better off away, but then there are the amazing times when things are great. I would go and see someone that might help you guys talk things through.

  • I’ve been married for 32 years, finding the middle ground, compromise, mutual respect and laughter have worked well for us. I guess only you can tell when it’s not right and can’t be fixed. I wish you all the best.

  • I been married 30yrs ,not always good .But comprising is useful ,talk if u can & always 2morrow is different.

  • You can go to counselling, try and work it out yourself which it sounds like you can’t, it may be time to call it quits.

  • You need to speak to a non biased person, both of you,to air your grievances

  • Just get out you can see it isnt going to improve. move on and make a new life …

  • I think you should talk first and then decide

  • try counselling! but you only live once and deserve to be happy, it will be hard but i think you know deep down that its just not going to work, you want to spend your life with someone that you never have the ‘do i stay/do i go’ question with

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