I am looking for information from parents that may have gone through something similar or a legal rep that may know some info.
I left a violent relationship when my daughter was little, my ex went to jail for the final assault on me. Once he was released he attempted custody of my daughter but during the court process he put his new girlfriend’s 2 year old in hospital and I got full custody of my daughter as the judge feared what he might do if he got hold of her. We also have restraining orders stating that there is not to be any contact of any form with me and my daughter. I am now engaged to a wonderful guy and we are getting married early next year. My daughter, now 11, has stated that she wants to take his last name. She also wants to be adopted by him but this can be a very long process and rather expensive so this will come a bit a bit later.
I have no idea where her father is, quite possibly in jail, as he has been in and out for various assualts in the last 10 years. After looking at the Births, Deaths and Marriages site and going through forms, it says that we need my father’s permission to change it, and I know that there is no way that he will allow her name to be changed. Her last name is mine and not his as I knew while I was pregnant that I was going to escape his rage one day so wanted her to have my surname.
Has anyone had their child’s surname changed without the signature of the other parent and was this a tedious process?
By what I can gather from documents and what I have read it seems as though some court documents can be enough to get the change without his signature.
Posted anonymously, 13th March 2014