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My husbands been called to be a witness in a long running dispute that’s been dragged to the courts. It’s affected us both so I really want to go and see the end of it and bring closer to that part of our lives. My question is do I take my 5 year old son who suffers badly from seperation or do I leave him with his nan and grandpa where I know he will be ok and safe just not 100 percent happy? I’m fighting within myself we could be all day waiting for courts or we could be in and out in a couple of hours. We will be gone at least 1 night.

Posted by anon, 22/11/13

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  • Leave him with hus Grandparents, 5 year olds have to get used to being left, otherwise what will happen when he starts school!

  • Courts aren’t a nice place even for adults so I’d recommend leaving your son with his grandparents. Perhaps you can leave him there for a few hours/all day until the lead up to the case so your son feels more comfortable.

  • Probably saying with grand parents might actually be better for him and both of you.

  • I think your 5 year old might cause you more grief at court. Particularly if it is a long drawn out day. I’d leave with his nan and grandpa. I’m sure they can ring or text if he is unsettled.

  • This is a very tough question. I think you should do what’s best for him :( I personally thinks that being with his mum is the best.

  • Usually I am an advocate for taking kids everywhere – but not to court. If you want to be there for it and he plays up, you could easily be asked to remove him from the courtroom. Leave him with the grandparents.

  • He will be happier with his grandparents than stuck in a court or waiting area. Also, it is amazing what little ears take in and it sounds as though he does need to hear anything about this matter.

  • I think he would be better at his grand parents, you will know he’s ok there. He may resist, will probably cry from what I’ve read from this but usually doesn’t last long. Grandparents are good, he will be fine. I hope things work out for you & you can get on with living your lives :)

  • He will a lot happier at his grandparents where he has some freedom to move about. Law courts are not the place for young children. This way your husband and you can concentrate on the trial without worrying about who going to take your son out because he is restless.

  • Leave him at his grandparents I’ve been near courts working in law and kids don’t take them too well

  • I would leave him with the grandparents, he needs to be able to stay away from you, especially at his age when he will be starting school

  • leave him with his grandparents that is not a place for children..

  • Definitely leave him. The courts are not a place for such young children.It could be more distressing for him to be there.

  • My feeling would be to leave him with Nan and Grandpa

  • better to leave your son with his grandparents

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