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Have you got any tips for handling a 14 and 15 year old brother and sister sibling rivalry? It seems I’ll be needing some diversion to separate them. Both of them are sporty and academic enthusiasts and like to annoy each other too much. Thanks moms.

Posted by Tina 2.11.2012

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  • This is just normal sibling banter. It doesn’t stop. My kids are 25 and 28 and they still love to stir each other up. It’s usually pretty harmless

  • Unless it develops in to really nasty taunting, with hurtful comments and possibly physical confrontations, I wouldn’t be too worried about it. Kids will always wind each other up, and love to compete. 99% of them grow out of it … eventually.

  • Hi, I know it is completely frustrating seeing your offspring fight with each other. I have 3 girls aged 16, 15 & 10 & my first 2 are exactly 11 months apart. I’m a single Mum and have been most their life. What I’ve found to work for me is having a lot of one on one time with each. If you can allocate each with special time with Mum I’m sure they won’t compete so much. I spend time with one just chilling out on my bed, talking & doing eachother’s nails & then i’ll be spending time with the next just walking the dogs and having a chat. It doesn’t have encroach on your on time (as our own time is limited) It’s just allowing time to do thigs seperately with each so they have a chance to “chat” :) hope it helps!

  • And this has only just started? HAHAHAHAHA give it another year or two and they will be friends again. If they play up too much hand cuff them together until they sort it out.

  • Its the luck of the draw sometimes with kids…they will either be loving and supportive or they will feel like its always a struggle to be top dog but sadly it would have been ingrained in them from a young age so you most likely find that when they are in their 30’s they will still be this way and there in not much you can do.

  • I’d say make them pick diffrent sports as then
    Neither can say they are better than the other, as they are so similar they probably want to be good at jist 1 thing the other isnt.

  • That’s normal I would jus let it b. unless on is not copeing?

  • Hope things went well with all the useful advice

  • Ha ha they r old enough to sort it out themselves aren’t they! That’s wot brothers n sisters r for! Annoying each other

  • get them to do a couple of activities together if its verbal ignore them if its physical then intervene

  • teamwork activities can have a positive effect, getting them to work together might make a bit of a difference!

  • I don’t know if it’s worse cause it’s a boy & a girl?

  • I like kymichelle’s answer, I’d give that a go

  • I found Kim Michelle’s answers very interesting. I think showing some faith in children and not expecting the worst often produces the best outcomes.

  • maybe try explaining them that they are part of a team and its a win win situation if they are competing with other families.

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