I would not wish teenage twin girls on anyone. (1) Mine are both very abusive to me, nasty, cruel, mean in every way that they can find, individually but especially together. (2) They gang up on me, ‘back each other up’ in ‘discussion’, frustrate communication by butting in, one over the top; not letting me finish… it’s like two brains against one.. in difficult heated moments the other brings up something else, distracts and complicates the matter, refuses to go away while I talk with their sibling. (3) They work together with twisting the truth until you are not sure what is what (is that gaslighting?) and both join forces to push for something they want based on the twisted truth. It is only my husband who can stop non-sense in its tracks… and thinks quickly enough to see the contradictions and absolute rubbish they have said catching them out on almost every occasion that my gut has told me is wrong (4) They walk all over me. In particular they will not respect boundaries when I say I need to get away. They will push, break through locked bedroom doors, force their way in and continue their complaining, insulting, bullying,etc. (5) They often tell-me off for being a bad mother or whatever it is they think will bring maximum pain in that moment…. (6) they take my stuff, don’t put it back, lie about it. (7) I try not to take it personally but it is mentally and physically wearing me down. Everything I try to do to help myself ‘cope’ they frustrate and wont allow. It’s like they want to push me and break me.. they wont even allow me space to sleep, but will be as noisy as possible. Some days I think they are absolutely toxic people who I want out of my life…. HELP!
Posted anonymously, 7th November 2020