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How do I tell people I don’t want another child? – My DD is 15 months old, and people have started asking when we are having another. The thing is we have decided not to have another baby and I feel like I have to justify this to everyone who asks! What ways have people found to tell people this without the endless “oh but your daughter needs to have a sibling” thrown back at you!

Posted by anon, 23/10/13

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  • Just say it. If they ask, answer truthfully and honestly. It’s none of their business how many kids you do or don’t want

  • **Thanks

  • hanks for posting this perspective.

  • My husband and I went through this and it was easy to look people in the eye and say “We’re happy with one.” When they retorted with, “But, she needs a sibling.”, we replied cheerily “No, she doesn’t”. When they said “But, she’ll be lonely.” We replied “No, she wont.” When they said “You can’t stop at one.” Our reply “Yes, we can.” People soon stopped asking.

  • Just tell them you’re happy with one :) who cares about any judgements just ignore them

  • Its non of anyone’s business to question your decision. People will always judge no matter what you do. Good luck with your DD

  • Simply stand your ground and tell them. I don’t want to have any more children. If they’re close to and you wish to explain more, then do. But really it’s no ones business but yours and your husbands

  • Yes! Just tell people it’s not their business for sure!

  • Politely reply you and your partner had discussed this and both decided one was enough. This may change in the future, it’s unlikely though, and yours perfectly happy with what you’re lucky to have

  • Just tell people it’s not their business!

  • Just tell them all mums feel judged for one thing or another try not to let it effect you

  • hope you go well with it. just say that it is un decided right now, if you don’t want to explain

  • tell them you perfected it in one go! I don’t really thing its anyone’s business. But you know how it goes …. when are you getting engaged. then married, then having a baby etc etc

  • This is your business only!!!

  • just say “we’ll see how it goes and i’ve got my hands full with one”

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