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What would you do? There has been no bonding. Now the new step mother is on the scene bringing around cards etc at the house. No permission. Called the child the wrong name. Turned up to the school. The other parent took an axe to the caravan infront of the children.

Posted by Cynthea Jenke, 20th July 2015

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  • Gee, this article is nearly 5 years old. I hope the family sorted out their differences and worked through it amicably.

  • I see this is an old question. Were you able to resolve this issue ?

  • I would be talking to them and laying down some ground rules. If they still insist on doing their own thing, you may need to get legal assistance

  • Deal with it through mediation and family court. Document everything.

  • I think you need to think about sitting down with them and having a discussion about boundaries and also about when the kids will have visits with them. If they would like to see the kids outside of the agreed times then they need to speak to you first not just turn up. This will upset the kids routine which as parent we know this is important. Also no violence around the children otherwise access will be terminated if you don’t do this initially it will be harder down the track good luck with it all I know your frustration.

  • I agree with the comments posted. I hope you’ve been able to resolve this situation to your satisfaction.

  • crikey – you are in the thick of it! I would talk to the Police, they are good with this type of thing, also Salvo’s they can refer you to DHHS which can assist. There are lots of options for help. Perhaps Centrelink can also advise? GP Can also do health care plan, so you can get some fee help from professionals. All the best x

  • I would be letting them know, in no uncertain terms, what is acceptable and what isn’t! If it continues, you might have to seek legal advice. They can’t keep doing what they’re doing, it’s not good for you or the children

  • Tell her what’s acceptable& what’s not .Maybe inform school who can take your kids home ,list allowed people .

  • Interesting reading the comments!

  • Interesting to read the comments!

  • wow set boundaries! put your foot down….not rudely but explain that somethings aren’t acceptable

  • Check your legal position and ensure orders are in place and followed

  • Are there orders in place?

  • Think you should have a talk to her a.s.a.p, letting her know politely if you can be nice if she let’s you know, find out her plan? yes there will be a reason why,just a friendly conversation you might try. The other stuff I cannot comment on. Hard as lots of kids these days have extra parents, than I did it is true, but at least getting child’s name right is a conversation clue..

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