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First time poster, so hopefully this goes well.

Basically, I took a Leave of Absence from my university degree in order to have my last baby. I’m due to return to study on Tuesday, but I’m so nervous I feel physically ill.

Baby is 1 year old now, but still breastfed more than 20 times per day and night, and doesn’t use a pacifier or bottle.
Hates cows milk, and otherwise only drinks water. Won’t even accept my milk in a bottle.

I am so nervous about being away for so many hours, 6 per day, 2 days per week. I feel as though I’m making a huge mistake, and I don’t know what to do!

Is it just nerves, or is my psyche trying to tell me something? To wait, maybe?

What do you think I should do?

Any advice would be appreciated, but no nasty comments please.

Thanks very much. :)

Posted anonymously, 27th February 2016

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  • I hope you gave it a go. Finishing your degree is so important to your future.

  • I’m so glad to read your update and hear that everything is going well. Good on you.

  • I’m thinking a nerve thing. Only way to find out us to give it a go. If it doesn’t work, try another delay. I’m not sure about still breast feeding a 1 yo up to 20 times a day still. Seems a bit excessive

  • I wonder how you went. In your situation, I would go back and spend few days to get him used to drinking breast milk through bottle. Trust me when his hungry he will drink it. Good luck!!

  • Thank you for your great responses. :) The balancing act seems to be going well, thank you. :D I have submitted all of my assessments ridiculously early, and started on the next lot. lol. I’d forgotten how much work uni is! I’m really loving it, though. It’s wonderful to be back. :D Thanks so much for asking! Have a great night! :)

  • So how is the balancing act going?

  • Good luck with your studies. It can be a very difficult balancing act so my advice would be to plan plan plan!

  • I don’t have any advice other than follow your heart and do what’s right for you. Good luck!

  • I had a similar baby only wanted booby milk and then got really fussy and would not take it in a bottle and on top of that woke every night every hour from birth to now. I guess only you can know when you are ready to go back to uni, follow your heart. If theres some doubt there then just give it some more time.

  • I’m glad your feeling confident to go back!! I hope it all works out for you and your family. Best of luck!

  • Good luck and may you enjoy the best of both worlds. Hope you find the support you need with juggling with family and studies

  • Glad the answers were helpful and that you are giving it a go! Good Luck and hope it all goes well. Sounds like you have planned well for your return to study.

  • Good on you for going back,l hope it’s a wonderful experience.Best of Luck!

  • Thank you so much for the considerate answers to this. I really appreciate it. :)

    It is full time study, 14 hours on campus, 26 hours off campus study per week, which is the best deal I could broker with the university at this stage.

    I have decided I will go back. Hubby studies his degree online, so we’ve decided he and Bub can meet me at uni during my lunch breaks so I can feed Bub, and break up the long hours away.

    Hopefully it won’t cause issues with nursing, but I guess if it’s meant to be, it will.

    Now that it’s official, and I start back tomorrow, I’m so excited I can’t sleep! :D

    Thank you all, once again. I truly appreciate your input.

    Have a wonderful night. :)

  • It is always difficult to separate from your bub. Is your study part time or full time? Can you gradually ease back into it? Maybe give it a go and see how you feel? You can always change your mind and plans. I find it helpful to write down a pros and cons list, seeing it on paper helps. Good luck with making your decision.

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