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I have an 11 month old bub and my second bub is due in march. My first birth was rather traumatic, forceps used, baby came out not breathing, it was all pretty awful. But because of forceps it was very quick!
Im worried about my next birth. I feel like my body is still recovering from the first.
I know there’s no telling if I will need assistance again like forceps but do you think second is generally easier?

Posted by Danicastefanie, 29th July 2021

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  • Much quicker for sure, and have heard that is usually the case. Easier as well but I don’t think there is a rule on that..

  • My first was super traumatic also! Ended up having an emergency c- section as the doctor was yelling at me, saying I wasn’t pushing properly. Um hello?! I’d never done this before!!!
    Second one I opted for an elective c- section as I didn’t want to go through the same thing again.
    Fingers crossed for you that the second time around is much better.

  • I had Caesar for both 1st no issues second they cut a superficial nerve I had chronic incision site pain and ended up on endone and antibiotics.

  • Each time is different. I think u just need to stay positive about it.

  • Yep second was much easier! And the third was in between; not as hard as first not as easy as second!

  • My first was also an assisted delivery – something they called a “kiwi” I gather it is similar to forceps. I also had an episiotomy and then stitches which healed badly and had to be repaired (painfully).
    My second was induced, but still 2 hours quicker than my first. No tearing, cutting or stitches required. Bub wasn’t well when born, but the birth itself was so so much easier and quicker to recover from.
    My third was also quicker and no tearing etc again.

    My advice is talk to your doctor/midwife/medical team about your concerns because of your first birth experience and let them help you to be more at ease with your second. Nothing is guaranteed that it will be easier, but I certainly believe that having good supportive help around you will help you feel better this time around.

    Good luck mama and enjoy your new little one when they arrive ❤️

  • First baby- 40hrs from 1st contraction, 6hrs active labour, issues trying to attach monitor to baby, had epidural due to exhaustion, prepped for c-section after pushing for 2hrs but ended up forceps delivery luckily
    2nd baby – 13hrs from 1st contaction, 1hr active labour, baby was born at home by ambulance without any drugs which was not planned just happened so quick once active labour started.

  • Mine sure was. It was half the time and no tear! You got this girl!!

  • I personally feel my second was easier than the first one. I think because you already know what the pain look like and how things can happen.

  • I’ve only had one so I can’t say if it would be easier or not, but I really recommend looking into hypnobirthing!! If you haven’t heard of it before it’s not as hippy or hocus pocus as you might think! It’s not hypnosis it’s more mindfulness and learning about birth and what the body does. It’s great to relax and help the process happen!!
    Good luck!

  • You aren’t alone with a traumatic forceps experience. I hope we both have a less harrowing experience this time. My mum is a great example, she had a painful sunny side up birth also with forceps for her first, but when she had me years later she said it was a wonderful easy birth with no complications.

  • Hell no! Much harder- he got stuck and it ended in an emergency caesarean!

  • My first birth was rather traumatic too and the second was easier. But no birth is the same Danicastefanie, you can’t really predict. Try not to worry too much and try to go with the flow as it’s not something you have in your hand.

  • I don’t know that I’d call it easier, but it was certainly very different. I think it’s hard to predict, and the best thing is to try not to dwell on it too much. And yes, I know how hard that is.

  • I’m sorry your first birth was so traumatic. I can understand why you would be feeling worried. All I can say is every one of my three labours & births were different. I was told that most women can measure their labour & birth to their own mothers experiences. It was true to some degree for me, in relation to prolonged labours & baby size. I wish you all the very best of luck for a textbook, smooth & safe delivery xx

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