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I’m hoping for some advice on how to make my daughter feel more comfortable. From 3 months old she has decided she will not be held by anyone other than my husband and I. Her grandparents who we see quite often can only hold her for 5mins before she starts screaming, nothing can distract her or calm her down unless she comes back to me. I’m very worried as I am due to return to work in 2 months (she’ll be 7 months) and I don’t want her stressed out. Would love any ideas you may have to make this transition as easy for her as possible.

Do you know any ways to help a baby feel more relaxed and comfortable with others?

Posted by Anon, 20/08/13

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  • My sister in law third child is similar . In fact if you smile at her , she may even give you a filthy look and she has always been picky from Day 1 . I would go to your nearest community Childhood Centre and talk to the nurse there. In fact they were the ones that helped me the most as other people gave me too many confusing advice. The best way I think is to slowly separate yourself from her say by going out without her etc and get someone else to take care of her . Tell her you will come back at such a such time . Also are there any hobbies she loves that could distract her for a while etc . It will be really hard for you later if you don’t start now . Hope it works out for you soon .

  • Best way to get used to new situations and/or people is by being exposed to them regularly. The more it happens, the quicker they’ll be overcome. Good luck

  • Take her out a lot, seeing and mixing with lira of people. Leave her unattended for short periods, gradually extending the time, with new people. Day care is also excellent

  • Best thing for this is to expose them to other people as much as possible. With just short visits to start with if there’s too much stress, gradually increasing the time

  • I think its an ages and stages thing, she should get better with time

  • I hope you found some answers, Im having this problem with my 11 month old now

  • Allow bub to be around a lot more people and held by others with you sitting next to them initially to bud a sense of safety

  • i agree take him out more and meet people

  • You could possibly start by taking bub to more playgroup type settings, especially as she gets mobile she may get to feel more comfortable around others

  • How is she going now?

  • I think that is normal and her grandparents should understand

  • how is it going now?

  • i hope it went well

  • Hope it was just a phase and that it all worked out for you.

  • Hope you managed to find some ideas that have helped.

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