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I am hoping to find out what advice or information you wish you were given about having a baby 0 – 2 months old that would have made the first couple of months a bit easier or some things you wish you were told about post birth recovery?

Posted anonymously, 30th October 2014

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  • The days are long but the years will fly by.

  • I was told to make the breastfeeding a real “up” time. So she fed properly. I’d get up and sit in front of quiet show up right and yes this is tiring at 2. & 5!
    With my second I lay in my bed with her and she fed fine then I’d burp her and put her back in her cot.
    The way I see it. Babies need to learn that night time is for sleeping and yes they certainly need those night time feeds andburped then back to sleep. But I didn’t need to get up UP and as long as Bub is feeding and not falling asleep on boob then wanting another feed sooner then I might aswell be comfortable. And so should you!

  • Don’t feel guilty if things don’t go to plan, just do your best and look after yourself and baby.

  • Take it easy on yourself and enjoy your new baby. Time flies by too quickly.

  • Sleep is paramount whenever you can.

  • Sleep when you can, don’t feel obliged to entertain visitors, always feed your baby whether you have visitors or not. If you don’t feed them in the day, they will be hungry at night. New mothers can be so vulnerable. Look after yourself and believe in your instincts.

  • Before baby arriving, have a manicure, a pedicure, haircut, waxing. Enjoy the cinema and dinner out. Get a good cleaner sorted. Put a response on your emails explaining that you will respond when you can. Inform friends and family not to call you but text or email as you both may be napping. If people drop by, and don’t expect to host them, ask them for help such as watching baby while you shower.

  • Sleep, sleep, sleep as much as you can; because it will never be the same again! :) Lots of rest before baby comes along. Then take the opportunities to rest when you can; even if it means letting a few things like housework slide; it is more important to rest and have energy in the early months. There will be plenty of time down the track to for other things.

  • Outsource everything you can and concentrate on resting up between feeds.

  • Breastfeeding isn’t easy for everyone. Don’t be guilt tripped into pushing on if you want to stop. Go easy on yourself! Trust yourself!
    get any flu like symptoms seen to asap. Might be an infection.
    hair will fall out but it’ll grow back.
    It may seem like you’ll never be yourself again but everything will begin to return to normal.
    only buy the basics before baby arrives. You’ll get loads of presents. Then you can work out what you still need. Just because mothercare sells is doesn’t mean you have to own it. You won’t use half the stuff!
    Exchange clothes given as gifts for bigger sizes. Newborns don’t need pretty clothes & won’t get much use of them.
    I could go on all night!

  • Breast feeding is not easy for everyone & if you think it’s not working keep getting checked out until you are happy.

  • Fantastic tips here! I’m due to have first bub in 1wk, 2 days :)

  • No. I knew the basics and I think too many people are overloaded with advice and horror stories! Sometimes it is better to work some things out yourself. If I didn’t know I asked, but was lucky enough to be an older mum who had many nieces to look after before I had a child of my own.

  • Stop listening to peoples advice and trust your instincts your doing just fine. And they say tummy time on the floor for 5 minutes but what we have learnt from the physio is it can be them laying on you too.
    Post birth your hair will fall out and it may feel like you will have nothing left by the end of the week but it does stop.

  • I was told after I had given up breastfeeding at 6 months, that you will find that there will be many days where your baby just wants to feed 24/7 even though you will feel like your empty but that is how your baby tells your body to produce more milk as their little tummy grows.

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