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Wondering what age do couples stop having sex? I’m nearing menopause & don’t really feel like sex anymore, but my partner has sex drive of a teen! We are close & I love cuddles, but that’s all. Need some info please on other ladies .

Posted by deborah_osborne, 10th March 2015

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  • I don’t think there is an age when people stop. People may desire it less, but many will continue til their last days.

  • I wasn’t aware stopping sex was something that couples end up doing. I know of people in their 90s still partaking. Have a chat with your partner and try find a happy medium

  • I too am going through menopause but my sex drive hasn’t waned. My parents stopped when dads emphysema prevented him. I don’t think there’s a set age for stopping. It could just be a passing phase and your drive could return. Who knows

  • Not sure, but I do hope you find your answer, I am in my 30’s so not there yet

  • it has been so long for me I cannot remember LOL

  • All I can suggest is that you find a compromise that you are both happy with.

  • I am 29 so can’t relate to menopause but i am heavily pregnant. And we have an active toddler who loves sleeping in our bed so our sex life is close to non existant :(
    We have bought sex toys to masturbate when we can’t manage to have sex. Best decision ever. We always try to be intimate when we can but don’t begrudge each other if we end up having to use the toys. It’s not as satisfying but it’ll do the job

  • We find to keep the fires alight . Keep doing the thing you were doing whilst you were younger keep the fire alight romance is the key to a never ending love. If that goes then you fall apart help each other by touch you never grow old if the love is still there.

  • WOW I just the 80 year old post … I hope I am that energetic!

  • Cheers for all reply ,great to hear others ideas ,but at 80 don’t think I’d have any energy for sex !

  • Up until last year my grandparents still had a healtgy sez life and my grandmother is 80.
    She would even have lingerie nighties. Lol.
    Not sure about now since they have been having serious health issues.

    But i will leave you with a quote from my 80 yr old grandma “we are older my dear, we are not dead!”

  • Go see a doctor but refuse the mirena IUS it is evil. i have cysts in the breasts as well a ovaries because of the evil thing do not get it. go to a doctor or a naturopath

  • Go see your doctor with help for your libido but whatever you do refuse the mirena IUS. I had one of them and now have hormonal positive cysts in the breasts I have to get scans on every 6 months to make sure they don’t get bigger. I got it moved 2 months after diagnosis and I have also had cysts grow and burst on my ovaries since removal. Yes my periods did stop but everytime my period was due i had extremely sore breasts and mood swings. I was also almost put on anti-depressants because of being depressed all the time because of that evil thing. You are better getting help frm the doctor or a naturopath.

  • Im nearing menopause also but it hasnt affected my sex drive.
    I think everyone is different but this is something that you should discuss with your Doctor as there might be things that can help you.

  • I don’t know if you are Peri-menopausal. But if you are you can ask your Doctor to see if you can have a Merina fitted … this acts as a birth control but also balances out your hormones and lasts for 5 years. You monthly period will also stop. In my opinion your partner is asking for sex too often and I think you are sick of having sex all the time. my ex husband was the same and it really did put me off. You have to find a way to enjoy it again. Maybe he isn’t doing enough foreplay?? Also seek out some counselling

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