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I had an argument with my sister who wants to let her 8yo because she’s told her a couple of girls at school have mentioned her hairy legs so she won’t wear a dress without leggings at school!

I say no way, not till high school! My 25yo says I traumatised her making her wait that long, but agrees 8 is way too young

Posted by mom150006, 16th October 2015

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  • I know my 16yr old does shave her legs the past year and I never made a point of that. However my 10yr old suggested some wks ago she wanted to shave her legs and I find her too young too.

  • I think they’ll do it regardless

  • I personally think 8 is a little young too but if the child is picked on and tormented then maybe thats best for her, but then I’d worry she’ll be picked on for shaving……it’s a vicious cycle. My daughter is 9 and on the hairy side (not getting any grief though) but I’d like for her to hold out as long as she can and even though I’m a shaver from way back would encourage her to wax from the start.

  • It is such a hard topic. My mum made me wait until i got my period, as she figured this was a sign i was growing up. But i was also a red head and had pale hairs.

  • Probably around 12-13 years old unless she was extremely hairy lol

  • hmm this girl needs to find nicer unshallow friends. i would say that this is way too young and borderline ridiculous. 8 year old girls should be playing games etc not worrying about their legs. have a convo with the kids. there is nothing embarrassing about her legs.

  • Thanks guys, we talked about your answers & decided next time Miss8 brought it up her Mum would agree to get her ears pierced first after discussing the positives she has, that the others have to find her legs their only topic option – that they can’t find anything else to pick on!

  • I allowed my daughter to shave with an electric razor at 10 as she had very dark thick hair and was very conscious of it. I think it is everyone’s individual choice and comes down to what’s best for your child and their maturity level.

  • I agree, 8 years is old is probably too young.
    However in saying that, when I was 11 I asked my mum and she said no. I ended up doing it behind her back anyway.

  • mom103920 – I like your answer too. Talking about the reasons is positive and helps with understanding why some people bully.

  • Depends even blonde hairs people may get teased at school for. I remember my mum not letting me shave and I got teased so I had to behind her back.

  • My daughter was being teased at primary school too but we talked to her about body image, changes through puberty, the fact that the girls who were teasing her hadn’t started developing yet and were more conscious and scared about their bodies changing, including getting hairy. It gave her the confidence to believe in herself and we let her start shaving ready to shave in year 8. I also found a hair removal cream and treated her armpits until she was more confident with shaving.

  • At high school 12/13

  • Good question I was 11 when I started! I have 2 girls – we are all fair hair but must admit if they had dark hair I’d think about it sooner rather than later to avoid bullying. I think a lot of people use HS as a standard

  • Not until the teen years and when they are able to shave, wax or other(if they want to) on their own and safely. There is far to much pressure on girls and women to be hair free. There is also way to much peer pressure on girls to conform to what is deemed ‘normal’. Kids needs to feel confident with their bodies and not feel ashamed because of comments. There are good books on building confidence, resilience and body image – maybe get some age appropriate ones for kids and give them to your sister! ;)

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