I go on strike and that hurts them. What do you do?


Posted by Cynthea Jenke, 29th June 2015


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  • School holidays, less money coming in. Extras to feed. Teenagers. Their rooms messy


  • I know one family who had an arrangement that sometimes Dad minded the kids and Mum went and did the shopping/ no hassles with the kids and met up with friends for coffee before going home. The Dad often did chores while watching a 3 year old and 1 year old twins who were premature and one had health problems and was rushed to hospital by ambulance on a few occasions. In good weather he sometimes did washing and hung it out in the fresh air. Alternatively the Dad would take the kids to the park while the Mum had some “me” time to do as she wished.


  • I often strike too but really that doesnt work too well as everyone else suffers. it depends on what you mean by difficult, I get that emotionally it can be draining and i often have to leave the room and do some mindfullness or just go to bed and sleep.
    I do not agree that you should “just get over it and Move on as life is life”. Talk to someone get help and explain to your family even your children that mummy is just a bit overwhelmed, frustrated or tired and needs ten minuts peace. my 3 year old now understands this.
    I’ve had Post natal Depression, been in a mum and babies hospital, and on medication for Depression all in the past year. I have such rough days and would never tell a person to just get on with it….unless we know the situation we do not Judge.
    Good luck x


  • I focus on all of the things that are important in my life and it gives me clarity and purpose. Reflection time is important.


  • I’m not sure i really understand your question but when life gets difficult i just get on with it really. I have no family to help out and at the end of the day i love my kids unconditionally and sometimes life is going to be hard. I definitely wouldn’t want to do anything to hurt then. Some nights just need an early bedtime for the kids and a glass of wine.


  • I don’t understand your question really. Life has hard moments, and good moments. Just get on with it…. It is not about point scoring. Why would you want to hurt people you supposedly love?? I say grow up!


  • I take some time.

    The way I process it in my own mind is that if I’m not recharged and feeling at least okay I don’t have anything to give my girls.
    I need to make sure I’m getting what I need so that I can make sure my girls have what they need.

    I try to be proactive instead of waiting for time to get hard.
    every fortnight my mother comes and watches the girls for a few hours and I do whatever I need to do, even running errands by myself. I also try to make sure I have a night away every now and then, which can be done really cheap actually :)

    Perhaps most importantly I make sure that others know whenever I’m struggling. Motherhood can be heart achingly lonely at times and I hate feeling that way, so I make sure I have lovely family and friends around me that know when I’m having a bit of a tough time. I try to be very transparent with those I trust.

    :)


  • Call a family member or wait til hubby gets home and then go for coffee with a good listener!!


  • I take some time out for me…that might only be a coffee on my own…but I am lucky to have grandparents who will look after them for an hour or so to give me a break


  • well i escape into my room (when possible) lol plus i will get the kids into bed early so that i have a little more time to unwind. Be kind to yourself. Yes you are a mother, yes you are busy but you are a human being too and you have to take care of yourself. Find 5-10 mins to just have a coffee. I will send the kids outside and they can go and make as much noise and run around as they want. Send them to bed early every now and then. Even if they are just winding down and reading a book or playing quietly, that is fine. Try to find things to entertain them with. When it is warmer weather, i give the kids water in containers and they can go and play. Get them bubbles to play with outside. I will let them play the playstation every now and then but it is expensive on power so they don’t sit there like zombies on it. Get grandma to baby sit even for a few hours. Catch up with some friends. Get the kids to have a movie night with popcorn and snacks. I have littlies so they get excited just by put food colouring into water and they love to play with that. Make playdough for the backyard. Take the kids for a walk. Keep them entertained and hopefully you will feel less stressed and they fight less. Being a mum is exhausting but you need to find time for yourself.

    Sorry i am just assuming that the kids are being a handful due to the school holidays.


  • May I ask what you mean by difficult? And in relation to? It may help with an answer? Thanks! :)


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