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our family usually do everyone bring a share plate for Xmas lunch, however this leads to some people bringing huge lovingly prepared dishes and others bringing the worlds tiniest salad in a packet. this year i suggested we all contribute financially and the host (my sister) buys everything (as she always has an issue with what someone has brought) she has taken this on board i wonder if anyone else has successfully done this?

Posted by mom273557, 13th December 2020

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  • I always host Christmas at my house and we all chip in abit but I’m happy to pay for it on my own

  • Bringing a contribution of food is always helpful to the person putting on Christmas.

  • We always have everyone bring a plate. We ask each person what dish they would like to bring beforehand so that we do not have too many duplicates of any food item. If they offer to bring a small inexpensive and non time consuming item, we nicely suggest that they bring something else as well. Some people are very good at making certain things and are thrilled to be asked to make it for the Christmas celebration and that we appreciate their skill. However, they have the option of declining to make the item and bring something else instead. A little bit of tact goes a long way in sorting out the menu so everyone is happy and has an enjoyable feast.

  • The host supplies the meats, guests bring something agreed upon – usually salads, desserts or both.

  • We normally cater the bulk and divvy out specific items and make it clear how many to cater for.

    I would be fine with financial but others might be funny about it. But I think it is a good idea to put it to the table for discussion re next year and see what people say.

    Usually our issue at Xmas is way too much food!

  • We’ve done “bring a plate”, being very specific about what to bring. Haven’t done the financial contribution, but I wouldn’t be offended if it was suggested.

  • Everyone is assigned a food group and brings a plate, like vegetables , meat, desserts, nibbles it works well

  • We ended up making individual portions for everyone to avoid any sharing.

  • We prefer to bring a plate designated by the host.

  • Previously we have provided dishes but with Covid times it now makes sense to provide money. Less handling and good hygiene control.

  • We do that as no one on my husbands side of the family is overly keen to cook/make anything so they contribute money and we plan, buy and make it all. It seems to work well as they’re all relieved they don’t have to make anything.

  • We call out any cheap skates!! The host provides the meat but because that is a big outlay, we all bring something designated to us. So one person would bring 2 salads, one person would bring the cheese plate – you get paid out if you are cheap or trying to get out of it!

  • We always say bring a dish, but the dish has to cater to X amount of people.

  • Bring food! It’s nore personal and then there isnt 1 person being relied on to puchase and prepare everything!

  • Communication is key. My family all bring 2-3 dishes each that is discussed with the host. Everyone is expected to contribute something, even us young ones.
    I’d be frustrated if someone brought Antony packet salad, at least put 3 packets together

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