I recently found out that my 8 year old dds dad is wanting to take her to QLD these school holidays (we are all in Vic). He is going up there with his partner, whom I haven’t met yet, but dd has and said she is really nice. My issue is that dad can be quite strict and not listen to our dd so I worry how they are all going to go. Dd has only ever spend a max of 4 days/nights away from me as she doesn’t have an interest in seeing him for long periods of time, and he doesn’t enforce it. He travels 2 hours every 2-3 weekends to see her, which is great. But with that being said, there are times he will drop her off with one of his parents so she doesn’t even see him much, I have no problem with her seeing the grandparents, in fact I have said even if he isn’t in town, if they want to see her I’m happy to take her there so that she can see them.
I knew he was thinking about going north to visit his brother and I actually thought of going up there for a week in the September or Dec/Jan holidays and was going to talk to him and see if they wanted to go up at the same time so dd could spend a few days with him, and a few with me. I thought he would talk to me before booking anything, but he’s gone and booked, told dd about it, and hasn’t told me yet.
With COVID and everything and how it is bad, then getting better, then bad again, I just don’t know what to do.
What would you do? Let her go or wait until a later date?
Posted anonymously, 17th June 2021