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At what age or stage of life do you want or expect your children to leave home? My sisters boys still at home in their 20’s. I want mine independent by then. What are your thoughts.

Posted anonymously, 16th December 2015

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  • To be honest I think I’ll be devastated when mine move out no matter how old they are.

  • I think when they want to.
    Mine are only little so I don’t want them to go yet and I’m sure I’ll be sad and the house will feel so empty when they do. I’ll more than likely cry lol.

  • I think it is up to them but I do not understand why some never leave and have no intention of leaving. I was ready at 18 years old. All kids are different and you can force them but I think it is time for the parents to have time to themselves for a change.

  • For me it’s as long as they need and want, but at older age I would expect their input in household cores and living costs.

  • When they were little, I used to dream of a child free home. Then they actually moved out and I wanted them back home ????

  • I think some are more ready than others. We all wish we can stay home for as long as we can! If they have jobs and are earning their way to still live at home then it should’t be too much of an issue, if they aren’t working and just slacking around then I believe it becomes a problem then.

  • Whenever they’re ready to leave home is soon enough fir me. It’s a hard world out there, I don’t want to push them

  • I’m happy for my daughter to live at home for as long as she needs, as long as she’s working towards her own future and helps out around the house.

  • I would love to follow my Brazilian culture where the “kids” only leave their parents house when they get married.

  • I think it depends on their personalities and motivation. I’d love my kids to be around as long as possible but that might not necessarily be the best thing for them. I’d hope they’d be motivated to take a risk, live with some friends and learn about life. Door’s always open if they need to come home.

  • I loved having my kids at home as long as they wanted. To us there were many pluses but few negatives. Would welcome them home any time including with their families as has happened in the past.

  • i would love to have them home as long as they want to be. i think that they can be saving money, buying a car, etc to be able to get ready. i think that working or careers will be hard enough so i would love to be able to give them a good boost for life. i moved out of home young and it was hard. i had no washing machine etc. all i had was a mattress for the floor and a little bar fridge (that i paid for). S o i want my kids to have all they need so they don’t have to struggle like i did, trying to make ends meet and getting trained up with a very small income

  • They leave home and you think they are independent then relationships break up, share houses dissolve and “voila” they are back with assorted furniture! This generation seem to find it hard to really stand on their own two feet and we seem to be enabling this behaviour.

  • I’d be happy for my daughter to stay at home as long as she’s contributing both financially and with chores.

  • I think everyone is different. If the child isn’t financially stable or independant enough I wouldn’t force them to leave. I’d be happy with them staying until they want to.

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