I have a friend of mine who I love dearly, but when her and her daughter come over to play with my kids, I always end up in a bad mood and hate every minute of it. My children have been brought up with discipline and therefore know how to behave and how to respect others and other peoples things. My friend’s daughter is a firecracker of a child. My friend has been told numerous times that her daughter is naughty but she gets offended and defends her. But her daughter is. Every time see comes over, she breaks something of my daughters. She runs around and makes a mess. My friend never tells her off. I feel that because she is in my house and playing with my daughter’s toys that I have a right to tell her daughter off, but then my friend becomes mad at me. Then when they leave, my daughter is sad because something of hers is broken and she asks me why the other girl is so naughty. I find myself making excuses to my friend and our catch ups are becoming less and less.
Should I say something to my friend? Do I have the right to discipline the little girl and risk upsetting my friend? Or do I just accept that some people parent differently to the way I do, and accept that our friendship is going to suffer?
Posted by mom143044, 27th October 2015