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We have a 3.5yr old and a 20month old. I suffered a missed miscarriage with our first pregnancy then were so lucky to have our two gorgeous ones now. I have a big history with severe endo and adeno and will be having a hysterectomy in a year or so due to it. I have 33 and hubby 30.

I have always felt a third and final bub would complete our family, and I have such a strong pull to have another. hubby and I have great communication and he said he is content with our two but if we were to have another of course he would be excited but he said he is really nervous and somewhat scared that about not having enough time, we are farmers and he works bloody hard and he is worried he wouldn’t beable to help me as much and how he would beable to spend enough one with 3.

My question to you is would you say yes let have the third or say no?


Posted anonymously, 20th August 2021

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  • If both you and your husband want another one then you could try until you can’t anymore

  • This is a decision for you and your partner alone. Maybe sit down and write up all of the pros and cons. If you pray – then this is a good topic to pray about, clarity on this decision. Best wishes for whichever way your life goes.

  • As someone with a few miscarriages before my boy, and trying for #2, I can definitely understand your hubby’s hesitation.

    What will you feel in 5/10/20 years if you don’t try? Will you regret not trying now, or will you be content that you have the two and they are enough. It sound like you already know the answer, so go for it. Good luck

  • It’s ultimately you and your husband’s decision. I’d look at it if you think of your life in 10 years time would you regret not having another baby before your hysterectomy?

  • Its yours and your husband decisions. If u have doubts maybe just wait a little bit- especially now with current situation its quite stressful to plan family.

  • It has to work for the both of you because you don’t want it to create resentment

  • Congratulations go for it!

  • Very difficult question when bringing a new life to this world , all the best go with how you feel

  • Haha I have no idea why there are ?? In my response

  • Hi everyone thank you for your responses. We had another good chat and we’ve decided to go for it ???? ????

  • And ? are you any closer to making a decision ? you could of course just get your mind off it, go for the passion and let nature decide :)

  • Yes. If it’s really important to you, do it. It will be hard while they’re really little, but it does get a lot better as they develop some independence. A few hard years for a lifetime of love? I’d do it.

  • I have 3 kids and couldn’t imagine it any other way and am actually wanting one more as I feel my youngest needs that partner in crime since my first 2 are so close and always playing together and leaving him out. It’s seriously personal choice, but if deep down in your heart you really want one more I’d say go for it.

  • Oh such a personal choice. The thing that would make me say yes let’s try is if you are both happy for a third and your heart is still wanting for another then go for it giving your having a hysterectomy they won’t be that chance after that. X good luck

  • I would say do what makes you both happy. As kids get older they demand less of your time because they are more independent, so you’ll probably find you’ll have more time and capacity to care for another small child with your eldest getting closer to at least 5 by the time another came along

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