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Posted anonymously, 20th August 2021

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We have a 3.5yr old and a 20month old. I suffered a missed miscarriage with our first pregnancy then were so lucky to have our two gorgeous ones now. I have a big history with severe endo and adeno and will be having a hysterectomy in a year or so due to it. I have 33 and hubby 30.

I have always felt a third and final bub would complete our family, and I have such a strong pull to have another. hubby and I have great communication and he said he is content with our two but if we were to have another of course he would be excited but he said he is really nervous and somewhat scared that about not having enough time, we are farmers and he works bloody hard and he is worried he wouldn’t beable to help me as much and how he would beable to spend enough one with 3.

My question to you is would you say yes let have the third or say no?

Thanks


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  • I think in the end it’s something that only you can decide.
    I wanted a third child even though hubby was happy with just the two. We ended up having our third baby and I have no regrets. Our house is so busy and full on, but that won’t last forever and I enjoy watching our kids all interacting with each other.

  • I have 3 and I have zero regrets. Yes it’s a bit harder, a bit more hectic but the dynamics of our family life are better for it. If you have that nagging feeling, it won’t just go away. All the best with whatever you decide

  • Honestly if you are still wanting another child – go for it. You will know when you’re done and you don’t want to live with regrets and what ifs..

  • It’s your choice at the end of the day, if your heart feels like you want a 3rd and hubby is happy go for it. It’s a hard question to ask random people, it’s what yours and your hubby’s heart desires.

  • This is an impossible question to put to randoms. It’s such a personal question and only you totally know your situation and whether you’d cope or not.

  • I’ve spent a year trying to decide this same thing one more or not I’ve recently decided I may aswell try once more and if it happens it happens if not I’m still happy

  • If both you and your husband want another one then you could try until you can’t anymore

  • This is a decision for you and your partner alone. Maybe sit down and write up all of the pros and cons. If you pray – then this is a good topic to pray about, clarity on this decision. Best wishes for whichever way your life goes.

  • As someone with a few miscarriages before my boy, and trying for #2, I can definitely understand your hubby’s hesitation.

    What will you feel in 5/10/20 years if you don’t try? Will you regret not trying now, or will you be content that you have the two and they are enough. It sound like you already know the answer, so go for it. Good luck

  • It’s ultimately you and your husband’s decision. I’d look at it if you think of your life in 10 years time would you regret not having another baby before your hysterectomy?

  • Its yours and your husband decisions. If u have doubts maybe just wait a little bit- especially now with current situation its quite stressful to plan family.

  • It has to work for the both of you because you don’t want it to create resentment

  • Congratulations go for it!

  • Very difficult question when bringing a new life to this world , all the best go with how you feel

  • Haha I have no idea why there are ?? In my response

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