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I am dead set on having 1 child. People think I’ll change my mind later on. What are your thoughts?


Posted anonymously, 18th February 2020


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  • There’s every possibility you could change your mind later on, but you could also stick to your guns. It’s not a bad thing, even though many people don’t understand the choice. I have a couple of friends that have just one child and never want anymore. They’re doing ok. Ultimately, you’re the one that has to raise it, so the final decision is yours and yours alone


  • I think everyone is different some people decide on a number and stick to it and others change their mind. I always wanted 2 children always but now they are growing up I want a baby I am very clucky. I won’t have another as financially it will be too hard but I never thought I would want more than 2 yet a part of me does so that’s a really hard question and things do change.


  • That was me a year ago. My daughter who is currently 2 and a half, at times when she would play by herself it made me sad. Watching her reminded me of my siblings and what i had growing up, being able to share stories, laughs, fears having someone protect me. The guilt took over and i since had number 2, and its the best decision of my life


  • My husband and I only have one and I couldn’t imagine life with two. Sometimes I think maybe but then I have a sleepless night and think.. no thanks! Haha


  • My husband and I wanted two children, but after our first we both decided one was enough and we have never regretted our decision.


  • I had such a traumatic pregnancy and birth with our first, surprise package thag i swore never again. 4 years later i changed my mind and my partner came around to it a few months after me. We miscarried and had to terminate a nonviable pregnancy in second trimester and finally got pregnant and had a healthy baby girl (also a traumatic pregnancy and birth). I now cant have any more children as the choice has been taken away from me and while i dont rhink we would ever want a third, i do wonder whether i would have changed my mind 4 years later. This newborn stage is sleep deprived bliss.. i didnt realise how much i enjoy the smell and bonding that happens with a tiny vulnerable little human. And seeing how loving and caring my better half is with our newborn makes me fall in love with him all over again.never say never… i really thought we would only have 1…but i now feel like my family is complete with 2…


  • I am an only child and I have always loved it! I played with my cousins and I love/hate them depending on the day! (Hehe)
    Do what you feel is best.

    Don’t let other people tell you what to do.


  • i think one child is not enough there should be a companion for first one and a sibling is a best companion


  • Hubby and I had decided that 1 was enough for us. Then a week after we settled on the idea….. SURPRISE!!


  • It’s totally yoyr decision…people will have opinions but it is up to you..


  • It is your choice. There are a few reasons why many Mums choose to have only one child.
    You have to care for and love your child / children. You are the one who has to cope with pregnancy and childbirth. It could your age or previously high risk pregnancy or the risk of another one for some reason. Is there any genetic risks at all? Do you already have a special needs child ? If you have contact with others with parents with children your child can interact with regularly or can go to childcare / daycare 1 or more days a week that will be of great benefit to your child you already have. It is astounding how quickly they advance. I have never put a child in childcare / daycare at all but I know others who have and it was surprised how quickly they learnt things despite the fact that their parents constantly attempted to teach them the same things


  • I want one more


  • My husband and I have been through hell for our baby (including miscarriage and a neonatal loss with our son at 6 days old) we now have our rainbow baby and I am not keen on going through it all again, I have everyone constantly asking “so will you have another” all fully knowing the stress and heart ache it puts on me and my partner. I am blessed with our one living child and grateful for the children I have had the chance to carry. I honestly think 1 living child is enough for me, I was an only child and I was lonely at times but it boosted my creativity and aslong as you have the child around friends and family and in activities they will be fine


  • Everyone is diffrent…we have 2 and that is enough for us


  • I feel one child is enough. I would rather channel all my strength and resources on one child. And me being a first time mum at age 36 doesn’t leave too much window for second child either.


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