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My child told a huge lie that affected a lot of people in a negative way. It wasted my time and many other people’s and cost a lot of money. Also she won’t tell me why she lied. It wasn’t necessary and it was when I was helping her and giving her a lot of affection. I know children lie I just am really puzzled by this. I also am not sure what to do about it.

Posted by mom76563, 16th January 2018

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  • One of my foster children has a Reactive Attachment Disorder and steals and lies all the time. Sometimes it’s scary how lies flow over her lips. We can not trust her on her word and often it’s takes a lot of time to unravel the truth and we have to pull our wallets to set things straight. The lie often occurs because she doesn’t want the truth come out. Our girl also has a shallow conscience and affect. We fear she may end up in Juvenile system.
    Seek professional help when you feel it grows over your head !

  • Kids lie, it’s just a fact of life. This seems to have been a serious lie tho. All you can do is sit them down and talk to them. Explain the consequences of their actions, why they shouldn’t have done it. Then hope they learn and don’t repeat it. You’ll need to keep an eye out to make sure

  • Nearly all kids lie and for different reasons, even many adults lie. When a child is a bit younger, reality and fantasy are still very much mixed. You can view it from a interlectual, emotional, social and neuroscience point of view.
    It’s not only very interesting to read about it, but also essential to get a deeper understanding how it works and it will help you to approach your child with wisdom and love.

  • There are layers and different reasons as to why children may lie. I have always found childhood development books to be helpful in assisting with childhood development and the reasons for behaviour and the strategies and techniques in managing them.

  • My child has lied to my face to. Only about little things like helping herself to chocolate in the fridge but i worry that it will turn in to a big issue later. I just keep reminding her gently that its not nice to lie and ask her if she thinks its right? if not why is it not right? etc. Make her critically think about what she is doing wrong.

  • There are so many things to consider. Her age, what the lie was, whats happening at school or within her friends group that could be affecting her, any attention anyond around her is getting that may be making her jealous. Kids lie for a million different reasons and its hard to give you an opinion without knowing any more details.

  • I would tell her that lies are unacceptable. She needs to understand that. And I’d probably to talk this situation over and over with her to understand what trigged the lie!

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