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My daughter in law tells me I cause drama and and my son, who was on ice and I helped get out of it tell me I’m drama. I’m told my 2 and half year old granddaughter and 6 year old granddaughter can only ring me when they ask to. They want no drama in their life yet they forget the drama I had to go through when my son was on ice and my daughter in law was at my door crying. Now I’m told I will never see the kids again or the new baby due in October.

Posted by mom241861, 27th June 2018

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  • So sad, I can understand you feel upset about this. When your son was on ice and your daughter in law was at my door crying, you were there and reached out and now they tell you you’re drama and don’t want you to be part of their lives. I don’t think you can force these things, the only thing you can do is show your love and willingness to be there when they need you. I hope and pray they change their perspective ! Xx

  • I hope some of the suggestions below may have helped; particularly about some support services.

  • I say give it time let them come to you they will reach out to you when needed at the moment they probably just wanna get back on track and focus on there family abit the more you push to see them the more they will pull away, I’m going through a similar situation with my Mother in law except she had no faith in me of being a new mum Etc just give it time

  • Step back for a bit and let time pass and i am sure when new baby comes along they will appreciate the offer of help. Try to not take over and give advice. Only if they ask for your option give it – otherwise be quiet and just enjoy spending time with the kids and let the relationship mend itself over time.

  • I have a mother in law and a step mother in law. The mother in law forces herself into everyone’s lives, tries to control everyone and everything, makes everyone feel worthless. My step mother in law, calls and asks if she can come over for a visit, offers advice when asked and doesn’t step in unless asked, She knows her boundaries, doesn’t gossip or spread our personal stuff. I don’t speak to my mother in law right now. That is why we have a problem with her.

  • Hi again , gee I have been giving this some thought and yes I can tell you are upset and I do understand you wish to have contact with your grandchildren who wouldn’t but not certain you will be told the right course of action to take either by me or any other mom on here. May I suggest a talk to the Salvation Army or Life Line etc I am sure someone could put you on a better path. Good luck and wishing and praying things turn out well for you and all involved. <3

  • Gosh I have only just replied to your other question on here.
    Seems like you have major family issues going on here and maybe a councilor could help. You helped your son but seriously that’s something any loving mom would do. Sometimes when grown children have children of their own we need to step back a little and let them parent because they are the parent. Unless the grandchildren are in danger let the parents do their job and try engage with them and the children on a helpful loving way. Talk to your son and daughter-in -law and tell them you need to see the grandchildren from time to time but do not preach or nag, just state the facts nicely.

  • So very sad. It seems like drugs have claimed another family. So sad when loving grandparents are punished this way. Hope it resolves for you soon

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