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and end up getting in trouble?

Posted anonymously, 2nd August 2016

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  • I think the teenage years are impacted by lots of hormonal changes which impact their mood and responses. Also teenagers getting more and more independent (and they should) and want to decide for themself. All teens go through similar phases — the need for independence, a separate identity, testing authority. It’s part of growing up; it’s also linked to developmental changes in the brain that will eventually help them become analytical adults.
    I think it’s most important to stay calm and listen to your teenager (show the respect what they may not show) be available and spend time !

  • I think teens can be influenced a lot by their friends.

  • Teens think they know everything as we did once when we were young!

  • Did you listen to your parents?? I didn’t listen to mine. Most people learn through their own experiences unfortunately. I guess all you can do is offer advice and guidance obviously intervene if something would cause serious injury or death!

  • A good question. I’ve always wondered about druggie and alcoholics with kids. It turns some kids off drink and drugs while it encourages others to be druggies and alcoholics. How does that work?

  • Unfortunately they think they know it all and their way is the right way. Experience will teach them.

  • i think it has to do with growing and wanting to gain independence,its a part of your brain wanting to grow from learning to make your own decisions,i’m no doctor or scientist though!yes they have to learn from mistakes but at least we can be there to help them learn.

  • because they know better! Kids don’t care that you made all these mistakes yourselves they don’t believe you were ever their age! They need to learn from their own mistakes as we all do :)

  • Teenagers have to ‘test the boundaries’ so parents have to be strong in the early days and make sure the boundaries they set are adhered to. All teenagers are rebellious – weren’t you?
    Remember what you were like when you were a teenager and act accordingly, otherwise you might not have children who befriend you once you and they have passed the parent/child stages.

  • because they are stubborn and believe they know better then you. But, sometimes the lesson is letting them make that mistake so they do in fact learn, the hard way :/

  • I think they like to be independent.. especially girls from mums… Girls also need to sort out that they are different, and not just an extension of their mum, so might purposely choose different foods, fashions etc. (It’s easier to see they are different to dad so not as much tension there!). If the ‘choices’ go beyond what is safe and reasonable, and they are not listening to advice about law-abiding behaviour etc. then perhaps they are testing the boundaries, or can’t see the consequences (limited brain capacity until mid-20s). Perhaps ask them their choice of action and then follow through and explore the consequences of that choice to help them think and come up with an acceptable way forward for themselves, without telling them what it is (and perhaps being willing to give on the non-essential things that will grow out or wash off etc. if that is the choice they make and the consequences are acceptable to you both).

  • It is the age that their own personality is forming and shaping and they like to make their own decisions and prefer not to be advised. Sometimes I think you can almost compare it a bit with a 2 year old who’s discovering they have an own will and really want to exercise that :)

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