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I’m starting full time work soon so my 16 month old son will be going from 2 days a week in daycare to 5 and I’m terribly worried that I’m somehow going to lose my connection with him. I’m just wondering if it really is best – I want to show him you have to work for what you want but I also don’t want to be away from him! I was hoping to get the opinion of other mums. TIA

Posted by anon, 12/11/13

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  • I think you should do what is right for your family. If you need to work to support your family, do it knowing you’re providing for your son. If you have the option of working part-time still, stay home while he’s young. He’ll always have mum there, and as long as you spend time with him when you can, he’ll know you love him.

  • You won’t lose your connection with him. Do spend what time you can with him, explain why you are needing to do this, you still love him.

  • Nope he will still be connected to you, try in the crazyness off after work to so something special with him, even if it’s a bedtime story every night

  • there are some good comments here

  • no he wont boys are always mummys boys

  • I don’t think so- wouldn’t worry about it.

  • You’re mummy! I’m sure it will be fine x

  • Some great advice for all mums looking at going back to work

  • Some really good answers below. Hope they have helped put your mind at ease.

  • how has it worked out?

  • Some times you just have to work but you will never lose your connection with him, just keep having special time with him a and you will be alright

  • As long as you keep having special time with him you will be fine

  • I don’t believe a connection will be broken, the bond is made. I think you are worrying but trust me he will love & adore you just as much

  • i returned to fulltime work when my daughter was 6 months old. i was terrified of missing all the special moments and big things. I never missed one!!! she did them all when she was with my husband and i. Yes its hard but you will definitely not lose your connection. It may help to build it. You certainly cherish every afternoon and weekend you have with your children. Good luck one day at a time and just remember why you are doing it :)

  • My daughter was 9 months when she started going to daycare two days a week, just make sure you start him 2 or 3 weeks before you return to work, that way you can slowly increase his time there and you will adjust easier.
    My little girl is almost 16 months now, and she goes three days a week now, when we pull up out the from she squeals in excitement & when I pick her up in the afternoon I get big smiles, cuddles & wet smootchy kisses.
    Good luck, relax & you will be fine

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