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“I was wondering when other mums children learnt to read? I recently had an uncle say my 4 and a half year old should know his alphabet and numbers and know how to read by now. I don’t believe it, all kids are different. But, when I mentioned I never learnt until kindergation, year 1 and 2 he made a snide remark then that w.e his daughter was asking why my son couldn’t read etc.. My son can count to 10 but refuses to in front of ppl, in his room off in his own world I hear him, in front of ppl, the numbers get jumbled up. I’m not sure if this is the case with letters as I’ve never heard him so any tips to getting him to count in front of ppl would be great as well”

Posted By Anon, 06/04/13

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  • Reading – my three all learnt in kindy/Year 1, although your son should be able to recognise some or most letters. But as for counting in front of others – Why? He shouldn’t have to perform.


  • All children learn at a different pace.


  • Your uncle is being very arrogant. Some kid will learn to read very early but it is normal for them not to start getting the hang of it until year 1. My son is 8 is only just beginning to read, he is dyslexic though. He is actually very inteligent and from that I have learnt there are plenty of parents that boast and act superior about their kids reading and act as though it is the only correlator to IQ. I only learnt to read half way through year 1 but have a university degree and phd.


  • You don’t need to get your son to perform in front of others to prove he’s capable! My son knew sone basics before kindy and my daughter was more advanced because she was hanging round her brother reading etc


  • Don’t stress it too much, kids go at their own pace and other parents will always brag about their kids early milestones, making you feel like a failure as a parent. My first, who was more of an outdoorsy hands on sort of kid, had the basics of letter recognition and writing before he started school. My second, who always loved anything to do with learning, books etc could recite and identify letters and numbers. She could also write some words by the time she started school. I think she benefitted from her older brother bringing his schoolwork home, helping him learn things.


  • Everyone is different and will learn when they are ready:)


  • every child is different he will learn when he is ready my son took until year 2 before he really started to shine through


  • My son is almost 5, he can’t read but he does know the alphabet and how to count to 20. If you haven’t already, enrol him in a kindy or preschool program.


  • Your Uncle doesn’t know what he’s on about lol! At 4 our daughter could count to ten without getting anything wrong, up to 20 and she made mistakes, can’t remember re the alphabet but could write her name, basic stuff.


  • Each child is different but there are some milestones that stay consistent


  • there are some good comments here


  • all kids are different, milestones are a matter of individuality, too often the one size fits all model has failed in the modern era. Einstein was a genius.. but struggled learning to read and write


  • Try not to get pulled into the whole comparing children thing. I once read an article about parents who boast things like that are often lying. I have 3 children and they have all been different. Try to surround yourself with more positive supportive people


  • Is he going to school this year ? If so he will be assessed so that the teachers know what level he is on and can start from there.


  • all kids learn at their own pace…same as they walk when they are ready and talk when they are ready.


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