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My sons bday is coming up and he has a few close friends at school. He also does an out of school sports activity, he has also made great friends with the kids there. (I have formed close friendships with all the mums of these children as well)
For his party, would it be ok to invite the kids and mums from both groups even though they dont know each other? Ive always had separate parties (one for family, one for school friends) but this is the first year there are 2 groups of friends and im unsure what to do.
There would be about 10-12 mums altogether. I just want everyone to be comfortable with no awkward moments.
Has anyone ever experienced this? Would love some advice..

Posted anonymously, 21st April 2016

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  • I have had a party with different groups and people do find things in common to chat about.

  • I can’t promise you that there will be no awkward moments, but largely it should be okay. The mums all have something in common, after all. We’ve had no problems with similar situations.

  • Yeah, let them mix together. They probably will/would have run into some of the other parents anyway.

  • The important thing is to enjoy the party! :)

  • Absolutly have the 1 party. Often even with school friends, parents may not know eachother. I wouldnt stress about being different mum groups. Everyone would be there for your sons party, so long as people can mingle then i wouldnt worry at all. Thats what ive found kids party to be like – meeting new people and you can be sure there will be more than a few mums who dont know any others. Its a good chance to meet others and dont stress about making everyone comfortable. A party is pretty stressful to plan and host, so keep things simple and everyone will enjoy.

  • Let everyone mingle, people love to extend their networks.

  • Why make more work for yourself & just join the two parties. People will mingle or they won’t. Don’t stress about it

  • They are there for your child’s birthday and I am sure everyone will be there to have a good time and more importantly make sure your son has a lovely time. You never know the mums might make some new friends too.

  • There’s no reason why you can’t have all the groups together. No one attending would expect to know absolutely everyone at the party. You may find that they’re all happy to mingle.

  • I think it should be fine at normal parties many people don’t know others.

  • I think it’s a great idea

  • I think it would be fine, it can be great going to a party with new people, in the same/similar situation/lifestyle as yourself, a great way to make new friends. I also think as long as each person knows at least one other person there will be little awkwardness.

  • Generally if everyone knows one other person it’s fine. It may take a bit to warm up but I have found it to be fine. I’d also recommend letting people help if they ask… Have some jobs they can do like putting out cups or making tea (if helps them feel less awkward if they need that)
    Enjoy the party

  • Well, there may be some mild awkwardness – people get shy – but I don’t think it would be a problem. You never know who might make a new friend!

  • I think it would be fantastic to combine the 2 groups. Most mums are keen to expand their friend base.

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