The mum says she was furious when she discovered her newborn’s name change… almost two months after the birth!

A new mum has shared her anger in an advice column on Slate after discovering that her mother-in-law changed the spelling of her newborn’s name behind her back. Looking at her son’s birth certificate eight weeks after the birth, the mum says she noticed that his middle name had been recorded with a different spelling, and was horrified when her husband confirmed his mother’s involvement…

Absolutely Furious

The mum says that she had discussed her son’s middle name with her husband prior to the birth and they had agreed on ‘Finley’. Unfortunately, the birth didn’t go as planned and her son was delivered via emergency C-section, which is allegedly when her mother-in-law took the opportunity to put in her two cents’ worth about the newborn’s name. “I, of course, am furious because I told him I was fine with the middle name but it had to be spelt Finley and he agreed before our son was ever born,” she said. “Now here is where it gets tricky. Apparently his mother guilt-tripped him into (changing it to Finlay) while I was asleep after my emergency C-section.” If that’s not total manipulation and taking advantage of a situation, we don’t know what is!

Not The First Time

To add insult to injury, it turns out that her mother-in-law had also tried to change her child’s first name allegedly saying that her daughter-in-law would “get over it”. The mum said she is debating confronting her mother-in-law about the issue as this kind of interference and manipulation is becoming a pattern. “My husband is very much also at fault for doing this in the first place and we are working through that together, but I feel as though something needs to be said to my mother-in-law,” she wrote.

This story is totally unbelievable – does this mother-in-law sound interfering or what!? Hopefully this new mum is able to change her newborn’s name to the spelling she originally wanted and get her husband to be a little more assertive when it comes to his interfering mother!

Has a family member ever tried to convince you to change your chosen baby name? Let us know in the comments! 

  • Wow, crazy.
    I am confused why I am reading a 1 year old story, complete with MoM comments from 1 year ago if the article is dated today 13 February 2020 by Kate Myers.


  • That would honestly make me furious! Stuff the mother in law, WHAT THE HELL was her husband thinking!!


  • Very disrespectful and both parts there, I would be furious if that happened to me


  • My inlaw told us that we need to change our son name as they doesnt like it.


  • It’s not that big of a change, just one letter, not a whole name. Still, a bit of a betrayal by the husband for letting it happen and keeping it secret for so long


  • I’d be at least as angry at my husband. What a betrayal.


  • Oh that must be hard having so much family friction


  • Her husband was just as much a part of this. I would be worried about future life together if his mummy has so much influence!


  • That is so disrespectful!!! I would force her to pay for the name change! I had plenty of people trying to convince me to change my sons name and spelling but I didn’t budge


  • Terrible, really. It’s not something you do. And I can’t believe the husband was part of it.


  • I would have nothing more to do with the woman and to know that her husband did that as she lay asleep after the emergency C-section displays alarm bells to me.


  • My father did not change the name but forced us to make a choice before we were ready. In one instance we would have called my daughter Michelle Lea, but because my son had been told her her name was Tracy Lea so we just changed her middle name as not to confuse him. He also pressured us into naming our third child but I cried all night and rang him in the morning and said no. Her name is not going to be that and we completely renamed her. I have included a photo of my last child when she was a little older. We called her Stacy Lea


  • I sure would take distance from my MIL when she would do this and would feel rather betrayed by my husband when he wouldn’t stand beside me in this.


  • The husband needs to learn to stand up for himself and his wife. If that were my husband and MIL I would tell them both to piss off. I don’t want either of our parents that involved!


  • I could never forgive my MIL if she did this. I’d change the spelling to how I wanted it and also think seriously about having her charged. She sounds like a very manipulative witch


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