The mum says she was furious when she discovered her newborn’s name change… almost two months after the birth!

A new mum has shared her anger in an advice column on Slate after discovering that her mother-in-law changed the spelling of her newborn’s name behind her back. Looking at her son’s birth certificate eight weeks after the birth, the mum says she noticed that his middle name had been recorded with a different spelling, and was horrified when her husband confirmed his mother’s involvement…

Absolutely Furious

The mum says that she had discussed her son’s middle name with her husband prior to the birth and they had agreed on ‘Finley’. Unfortunately, the birth didn’t go as planned and her son was delivered via emergency C-section, which is allegedly when her mother-in-law took the opportunity to put in her two cents’ worth about the newborn’s name. “I, of course, am furious because I told him I was fine with the middle name but it had to be spelt Finley and he agreed before our son was ever born,” she said. “Now here is where it gets tricky. Apparently his mother guilt-tripped him into (changing it to Finlay) while I was asleep after my emergency C-section.” If that’s not total manipulation and taking advantage of a situation, we don’t know what is!

Not The First Time

To add insult to injury, it turns out that her mother-in-law had also tried to change her child’s first name allegedly saying that her daughter-in-law would “get over it”. The mum said she is debating confronting her mother-in-law about the issue as this kind of interference and manipulation is becoming a pattern. “My husband is very much also at fault for doing this in the first place and we are working through that together, but I feel as though something needs to be said to my mother-in-law,” she wrote.

This story is totally unbelievable – does this mother-in-law sound interfering or what!? Hopefully this new mum is able to change her newborn’s name to the spelling she originally wanted and get her husband to be a little more assertive when it comes to his interfering mother!

Has a family member ever tried to convince you to change your chosen baby name? Let us know in the comments! 

  • I could never forgive my MIL if she did this. I’d change the spelling to how I wanted it and also think seriously about having her charged. She sounds like a very manipulative witch


  • Unbelievable. Wrong. Manipulative. And there is no doubt a pattern of this kind of behaviour, you don’t just do this out of the blue. This mother-in-law is absolutely and totally out of line and needs to be put back in her place. And this woman’s husband needs to be totally supportive of his wife and not manipulated by his mother. He needs to stand up to her. Nothing about this is okay.


  • Husband needs to get out from under his mother’s control. Change your child’s name to what you originally decided on & tell the mother in law to butt out if she wants to be able to see her grandchild. It is pathetic that the husband caved in to his mother & it is obvious he has mummy issues so needs to grow up. That sort of in- law can destroy a marriage because they are always interfering & trying to control everyone involved so lay down the rules & tell both husband & MIL they are not negotiable. In most states you have 60 days to register a newborn’s name so perhaps check to see if it can be fixed.


  • Whaaat?! What made her think she had the right! Sounds like hubby needs to cut the apron strings!


  • Wow. She’d be copping a piece of my mind for sure. Stay in your lane!


  • I would be having a word with her, telling her if she ever does something like that again, she won’t be welcome back in the house


  • Wow that’s not very nice at all, can’t believe that happened! How rude!


  • Your husband didn’t respect your wishes or discuss with it you. He needs to get his priorities right not be walked over by his Mother. You can change it but I don’t know if you can afford the fee to do it. Did she change the spelling after you signed it or don’t you have to sign birth certificates any more???.


  • Do think that MIL will not be a very welcome visitor to the house if the father isn’t around.


  • When I see those names and spellings, to me they are different names.
    If someone did that to me I would destroy them! (Metaphorically ofcourse)
    but end of uninvited visits, access to FB photos or any kind of relationship beyond awkward and strained holiday events


  • Oh lord… that poor mum. Disrespectful from both her husband and her MIL who should know better being a mother herself.
    I experienced a similar incident from my MIL who demanded we name the baby what she wanted as soon as she found out I was pregnant…. this continued for weeks after the baby was born and when we refused she then pushed for it to be a middle name instead!
    I gave her a mouth full and told her she had her chance with her kids. Something this mum needs to tell her MIL.


  • Wow, imagine what life will be like for the rest of the kids life!


  • Wow, way out of line ! I would be furious too.


  • I would be SO furious. You grow and nurture this child for 9 months, go through a birth and have every right to be angry


  • Husband needs to stand up for his wife particularly when she’s in such a vulnerable position.


Post a comment
Like Facebook page

LIKE MoM on Facebook

Please enter your comment below
Would you like to include a photo?
No picture uploaded yet.
Please wait to see your image preview here before hitting the submit button.
Your MoM account

Lost your password?

Enter your email and a password below to post your comment and join MoM:

You May Like


Looks like this may be blocked by you browser or content filtering.

↥ Back to top

Thanks For Your Star Rating!

Would you like to add a written rating or just a star rating?

Write A Rating Just A Star Rating