This mum is totally devastated that her best friend fired her from being a bridesmaid because she’s fat! Is she being unreasonable here?

“My best friend of 20 years asked me to be her maid of honour. I was thrilled of course. Just before she got engaged I fell pregnant and now have a gorgeous 2 month old daughter. The issue is that I put on about 25kg during my pregnancy and am struggling to lose it.

“My friend ordered the bridesmaid dresses months ago and I look like an overstuffed sausage in mine. The dressmaker said she could try and add a panel but my friend is adamant that it won’t look good and she is obsessed with all her bridal party looking the same.

“She told me yesterday that she thinks it’s better if I don’t be a bridesmaid anymore. I am absolutely gutted and feel guilty that I am too big to fit in the dress. I am also hurt and think I would never have ever done this to her (who cares what she wears as long as she is by my side!). I am now thinking of not going to the wedding at all. What should I do?”

Mums have shared their wise words of wisdom.

Our kind mums have said she is not a real friend if she can do something so shallow and advised the mum to move on and forget about her and get some new friends.

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“What a shallow woman. Stuff her and her wedding. It’s about having people there that you want, the photos are good but people and looks change.”

“My heart breaks for you . Stay home cut her loose and love you great gift of a baby.”

“Best friends are real friends and love you no matter what. They are there for you through thick and thin and in good times and bad. Best friends will be there for you always. Maybe it’s time to re evaluate your friendship. Take care.”

“I am so sorry. I would not go either. I could not image doing that to my best friend.”

“If she was truly your friend she wouldn’t care. As much as it would hurt, I would no longer bother with her.”

“Sounds like she was never a really nice friend to start off with.”

While others urged the mum to go and enjoy herself still!

“Go to the wedding. She is your best friend. If you grew a sizes or sizes bigger because of your gorgeous daughter, who cares? As long as you are happy in your own skin. Buy your own beautiful size appropriate dress and shine at your BF’s wedding.”

“Go and let the world know why you aren’t a bridesmaid and please don’t take it to heart people are cruel.”

“I would confront your friend and let her know how upset you are and thought you were better friends then that. I know these are photos she will always look back on so wouldn’t she want her BF of 20years to be by her side.”

What would you do?

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  • She was never a friend how rude of her


  • Not a true friend to begin with I say


  • Sounds like the bride may be overly stressed about her wedding being “perfect”. If it’s new behaviour being so shallow/picky. There’s always more to the story.


  • What would the bride have done if the other bridesmaids that got pregnant too? Choose more different bridesmaids? Unless the wedding is about to happen, why did she order the dresses so early?


  • I don’t believe that is a true friend. She is shallow and needs a reality check.


  • So many people lose sight of what a wedding, ad choosing participants, is actually about.


  • What a hurtful thing to do, I would have thought she was selecting her maid of honour based on her friendship and closeness not on what she looked like.


  • Thats horrible. Who cares if shes put on weight from being pregnant. I dont understand why some people are so obsessed with wanting their wedding to be “perfect”


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