The mum-to-be was left gutted when her husband was less than excited about the announcement…

A third time mum has taken to parenting forum Mumsnet to share her disappointment about her husband’s reaction to her pregnancy announcement. After having her contraceptive coil taken out in October, the mum says that they had discussed trying for another baby and were in no rush, but nature had other ideas…

Too Much To Handle

The mum says that she had been having conversations with her husband about the possibility of another child for a while. “We decided we would try for another baby, we were in no rush so just decided to see how it went,” she said. “We’ve spoken about it a few times in the last few months, all positive stuff, just general chat, even spoken about it to his mum and sister, he even told them he would like a girl.” Everything indicated they were on the same page, but the mum said that when she texted her husband to say she was pregnant a little sooner than expected, his response came as a shock. “What are you going to do?” he said, going on to ask if they should keep the baby.

Really Upsetting

After receiving the text, the mum says she was in total shock. “I told him I thought he was being selfish and horrible and asked why he agreed to me having the coil out if he didn’t want me to get pregnant,” she wrote. “Now maybe this is me being really oversensitive, but it has really upset me…I feel so deflated and just not excited at all now.” Fellow mums commenting on the post were equally gobsmacked. “He sounds like he’s changed his mind and not told you. That’s really unfair,” said one outraged mum. Others suggested that the mum’s decision to text her husband the news could be part of the problem. “Maybe you just caught him at a really bad time?” said one.

We really hope this couple are able to work things out – this husband needs a lesson or two in how to communicate!

Did you experience a bad reaction to your pregnancy announcement? Share your stories in the comments.

  • A new baby news might be overwhelming for some people because they have to think of their finances the added pressure and the costs involved and budget and things
    babies are a great gift and people should feel happy and thankful


  • My partner would have been pretty shitty if I sent him a text. It might just been the husband reacting out of shock. Or he might now be feeling the pressure and reality of providing for another child.


  • My first thought reading this article was “why would you text to your husband such important news ?” I can imagine this mum was upset, since they made the choice together to try for another baby.


  • When I found out I was pregnant with my son (3rd pregnancy. 1st stillbirth, 2nd daughter) I was so excited to tell my husband. It was Dec 1st and I put the Xmas tree up and decided to put the pregnancy test in an envelope saying for dad and daughter to open immediately.
    My husband opened it and said what is this? That can’t be right.
    Might I add we had started trying over six months ago.
    So I just stormed out the room with my daughter. Later he’d realised how he reacted was in appropriate and apologised for the poor reaction but it still upsets me today.


  • It’s always a disappointment if you are feeling excited and your partner isn’t. I hope that they are able to sort out their differences


  • Hmm, I wonder if there is more to this story? Perhaps there was a change in circumstances or something similar. It is easy to judge on face value, but often there are more to these stories.


  • Hopefully he’s just shocked and changes his mind quickly and becomes excited. Still hard to deal with that reaction when you’re pregnant, emotional and excited.


  • Probably not the best way to tell him – but his reaction still seems a bit excessive.


  • I think my husband would have been pretty crabby at me if I just announced a baby via text lol! – I do feel for the lady though, I mean that’s not the sort of reaction one would expect after all the chatting and agreeing to take the coil thing out!

    Hope it resolves and all are happy with the happy news :)


  • Not sure letting hubby know via text message was the best way to announce it. But I am surprised by his reaction, if they had both discussed another child and agreed on one, it would be majorly deflating


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