January 14, 2020


This controlling mother-in-law insisted that the gender of her grandchild be kept a secret…

One unhappy mum has taken to popular forum Reddit to tell of her mother-in-law’s controlling behaviour during her pregnancy. Revealing that her mother-in-law has insisted that the gender of her baby be kept a secret, the mum-to-be said that she feels she should be able to do whatever she wants without being made to feel guilty.

A Step Too Far

During the holiday break, the concerned mum says her mother-in-law was insufferable and made her feel incredibly uncomfortable. “After being horrible to everyone, and blaming my pregnancy hormones when I gently stood up to her, MIL’s new obsession is making sure we do NOT find out the sex of our unborn baby because if we do, we’ll ‘ruin everything.’ The mum went on to say that her mother-in-law kept telling her that she’d be having a boy as her family’s genes make boys (we’re not sure that’s how it works…) which wouldn’t be as annoying if she hadn’t also announced the pregnancy without permission just 8 weeks in. Starting to sound like a trouble maker to us!

Getting Revenge

Comments on the post included suggestions on how to get a little revenge on the mother-in-law for her pushy ways. “Come up with outlandish, bizarre names to troll her,” said one. “My ex and I told his mom that our daughter’s middle name would be Chewbacca. We kept it up long enough that she was never sure if we were serious, especially since we’re both geeky weirdos,” said another.  The mum-to-be revealed that she had actually decided to find out the gender of the baby, despite her mother-in-law’s protests, but wouldn’t be telling her. “Science says we CAN find out the baby’s sex and despite the supposed ‘boy genes’, we’re having a healthy little girl! Guess who doesn’t get to know this information?!”

Did you have to contend with an overbearing family member during your pregnancy? Share your story in the comments!

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  • Ahh that would be a no from me! The hide! Honestly her body her and her husband’s choice.


  • I feel sorry for her having to put up with that mother in law,it should be the husband and wife’s choice as to what they decide.


  • Absolutely ridiculous for the MIL to demand such a thing! Good on the Mum for not giving in to her ludicrous request!


  • I don’t see how people feel they have a right to tell parents/expecting parents what to do. Its such an individual choice. If she didn’t want to know, she could request that they don’t tell her and ask other people to respect her choice not to know.


  • I’m glad she decided to find out the gender of the baby, despite her mother-in-law’s protests. It’s a “sick” request from her MIL and it would be “sick” to give in to that


  • Poor woman, why do others thinks they can dictate the lives of other people. I’m thankful I didn’t have anyone like that


  • its their choice. I had no problems like that thankfully


  • Haha chewbacca as a middle name is a perfect joke


  • What a controlling cow! I would find out and make a huge announcement just to annoy her hahah We told everyone if we had a girl it would be called Guadeloupe Consuela or a boy was going to be Cadbury Milo (I may or may not have a chocolate addiction!)


  • My MIL lived in a different country and never interfered with our decisions – nor did my mum.


  • My mil didnt want us to find out, we did anyway just pretended we didn’t and didn’t tell her, in the end who cares? my dad didn’t really like the name we picked for our 2nd child but he got over it too bad if he didn’t


  • Whoopsss that’s not very nice on MILs part.


  • I got told that only bogans find out the sex. No idea how that works.


  • My in laws asked us to choose diffrent name for our son…


  • This is clearly none of MIL’s business. She doesn’t get a say.


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