January 14, 2020


This controlling mother-in-law insisted that the gender of her grandchild be kept a secret…

One unhappy mum has taken to popular forum Reddit to tell of her mother-in-law’s controlling behaviour during her pregnancy. Revealing that her mother-in-law has insisted that the gender of her baby be kept a secret, the mum-to-be said that she feels she should be able to do whatever she wants without being made to feel guilty.

A Step Too Far

During the holiday break, the concerned mum says her mother-in-law was insufferable and made her feel incredibly uncomfortable. “After being horrible to everyone, and blaming my pregnancy hormones when I gently stood up to her, MIL’s new obsession is making sure we do NOT find out the sex of our unborn baby because if we do, we’ll ‘ruin everything.’ The mum went on to say that her mother-in-law kept telling her that she’d be having a boy as her family’s genes make boys (we’re not sure that’s how it works…) which wouldn’t be as annoying if she hadn’t also announced the pregnancy without permission just 8 weeks in. Starting to sound like a trouble maker to us!

Getting Revenge

Comments on the post included suggestions on how to get a little revenge on the mother-in-law for her pushy ways. “Come up with outlandish, bizarre names to troll her,” said one. “My ex and I told his mom that our daughter’s middle name would be Chewbacca. We kept it up long enough that she was never sure if we were serious, especially since we’re both geeky weirdos,” said another.  The mum-to-be revealed that she had actually decided to find out the gender of the baby, despite her mother-in-law’s protests, but wouldn’t be telling her. “Science says we CAN find out the baby’s sex and despite the supposed ‘boy genes’, we’re having a healthy little girl! Guess who doesn’t get to know this information?!”

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  • Your life your family. Include mil as much as you want but make your own decisions.


  • I’m glad you found out , if that’s what you wanted. Just be strong when buns is born .. I’ve got a feeling mil might be telling you how to do everything!


  • i would focus on what you and hubbie want to do


  • Mother in law needs to back the hell off


  • It’s none of her business if you find out or not. Wow that’s pushy.

    • Exactly! I would completely ignore such behaviour.


  • The MIL actually does not get a say!


  • Oh that would seriously piss me off! Not that I would listen anyway. My body my baby my choice


  • To be honest, it’s got nothing to do with her…it’s not her baby. The parents to be can do what they like and what they decide to do is the right thing. She needs to butt out!


  • I’d find out and hold a massive gender reveal party. Make a really big deal of it!


  • Mother in Law is way too involved – and probably always will be with regards to the grandbaby when born. If I was the parent’s to be I would be setting up some serious rules before bub’s is born to limit the amount of stress the new mum will be under with a controlling MIL watching her every move – I honestly couldn’t think of anything worse and stressful :(


  • This mother in law steps way out of line ! I would immigrate :)


  • I’d do the same


  • Absolutrly wrong of her. It’s not her child and the mother should have her own choice and say


  • I’d have announced baby’s gender at the next family event to rub it in her face and put her in place. I hope this mum finds the courage to put her foot down to her MIL before things go too far. The absolute nerve of announcing her pregnancy before she did!!


  • When my SIL found out about our first pregnancy, her first response was “Don’t tell (her then 7 year old) because if you lose the baby it won’t be fair to her” First thing she said.


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