i couldn’t listen to my child screaming for me so i can’t do controlled crying. it is sad that they eventually shut up because you have taught them that you go into bed and cry but i won’t come to you

With parenting, I think you’ve just got to do what feels right.

i do what i feel is right for my kiddies .

Since every child is different, every parenting style is different. I think it is great that you listen to your instincts, and just think, do you know any teenagers that sleep with their parents I am sure one day she will leave your bed and you will miss the cuddles. So enjoy them while you can

You know, I am not a fan of labelling parenting styles. I think you are right in saying it is instinct. By labelling it I think it gives this idea that you are living your life by the book and doing the exact same thing that other so-called ‘attachment parents’ are doing. From what I can read I think you are just doing what is instinctive in your situation…. You are loving your child the best way you can and doing what works for you! There is no right or wrong way (excluding abuse of course). Well done!