I am unsure as to why anyone would choose to have a caesarean over a natural birth. I have experienced it both ways and let me assure you- the pain free part of the labour isn’t worth the pain that follows!
Both of my labours were completely different. My first lasted an eternity! My water broke on the Thursday night and my daughter wasn’t born until the Sunday morning! I guess she just decided that she didn’t want to come in the end (after labour pains all Friday night) and then I had to be induced. So I have experienced probably the worst of labour pains by actually being induced (it is a lot more intense) and trying to do it drug free (which I managed for 5 hours and then after only being 3cm dilated after all that and they were going to up the intensity, I opted to get the epidural). I can tell you that nothing beats the sensation of pushing your baby out into the world, as hard as it is, and then the great sense of accomplishment that goes along with it. As much as you have still accomplished something with having a caesarean (after all, you have just endured 9 months of don’ts!), the feeling of birth is completely different.
My second labour ended with a caesarean and it was about the most traumatic experience of my life to date. My labour started naturally, but despite the pain, just didn’t seem to be progressing, and then, like my first, it just slackened off. Then Pow! It was back with a vengeance and I decided to have a shower again. I had a student midwife as well as a fully qualified midwife and the student decided that it was time to check on heart rates, etc. She read them out and then the midwife asked her to check again. Things didn’t seem quite right so I was asked to get on the bed and that was when the pains really struck me. The heart rate of my baby was too low and I was asked to roll this way and that on the bed as they tried to figure out if it was the contractions causing it. I was in agony. After seeking a few opinions, it was decided that I needed to have an emergency caesarean. Disappointment didn’t even come into it at that stage, all I wanted was to get the baby out! Finally I was given the drugs and all was quiet, peaceful and pain free.
It was very surreal when my son was actually born. It was too quiet and for a moment there we feared that we had lost him. Then, we heard that beautiful little cry that brought tears to our eyes. I had done it! However, what was to follow was weeks of needing help, not being able to pick my daughter up, drive or do anything.
I must say that the 8 weeks following a caesarean are very boring – not to mention the 3 days that I spent in hospital listening to babies cry all night.
Having a caesarean is no less of an achievement, but I must say after having it both ways I must say that I would rather a little pain now, than weeks of not being my full self. A caesarean in my opinion should always be a last resort.
Posted by sars_angelchik, 29th June 2016