Pregnancy is Not Glamorous - Real Mum story on MoM

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It seems like every model, actress, singer and socialite has an easy pregnancy with no complications. Equally, post pregnancy seems like a walk through the park for these pack of super mums. Things seem glossed over though, like post-partum bleeding or hair loss after pregnancy. Post natal depression isn’t something many yummy mummies share on their social media platforms.

Yet, for everyday mums these are issues relevant to our lives, we deal with many not so glamorous side effects from pregnancy and being tied forever more to a tiny dependant person. With so many yummy mummies in the news being marvelled at for simply being yummy mummies, it’s not wonder the rest of us feel like we must be doing something wrong. After all, for celebrity mums they seem to have their six pack back two weeks after giving birth to 10lb babies. Their hair NEVER seems to fall out and they don’t have the dull try complexions common post birth. So what are the rest of us doing wrong?

We never see glamour mums be anything less than perfect because it’s the image they want to put out to the world. Celebrity mums should not be used as examples for the perfect guide to motherhood because their worlds are different from regular working women. A celebrity mum has access to the best personal trainers, dieticians, doctors, make up artists, stylists and plastic surgeons. An everyday working mum usually does not. We can’t compare our lives or how our bodies look post post-partum to the images we see online. Frankly, those images don’t portray every reality. Just one.

It’s great some mothers are able to look flawless so quickly, but it doesn’t make those us stuck in oversized track pants for the next 6 months worth less as human beings. Sometimes, it’s important to step away from social media for some perspective. I don’t know many true super human mums wearing a bikini two weeks after having a baby. The extraordinary ones that are probably genetically blessed, so why compare myself to them? Instead, I will lay back in bed with my baby, stuck in track pants for at least 6 weeks after bub is born. I will try my best not to fall asleep cooking because I am a sleep deprived mess and I buy some enough chocolate and icecream to eat in bed while trying to breast fed a tiny baby from two oversized, stretch marked breasts. Because, pregnancy does not need to be glamorous, and that’s just fine with me.

Posted anonymously, 9th May 2015

9 Comments

- - RA1234756 said
  - 20 Apr 2023
    2:01 pm
They have a terminal combination of lying and throwing enough money at the problem that they don’t have to be responsible for housework, their own children, anything vaguely unpleasant, and recently even pregnancy itself.

- - mom113055 said
  - 18 Oct 2015
    3:22 pm
it seems like every model

- - mom57522 said
  - 07 Jun 2015
    1:39 pm
Just remember those stars have a lot of extra paid help!

- - mom135828 said
  - 11 May 2015
    11:36 am
There’s an unrealistic expectation on women full stop to look amazing. It’s ridiculous. We just need to be happy with who we are. We don’t have an army of support people around us to cook, clean, personal train, etc. There are a lot of people in the world who have bigger issues than carrying around a bit of post baby weight. My body produced two beautiful little people and they’re the most important things in my life. Not some celebrity who lives in a world only 1% of people live in.

- - BellaB said
  - 10 May 2015
    4:41 pm
They usually have a lot of help too – and good luck to them.

- - regine_kong said
  - 10 May 2015
    12:59 pm
My pregnancies have been fairly easy. First one was a breeze but i had a hard birth. This one i had morning sickness for a bit but i seem to be ok atm. Dunno about the birth. Recovery can be hard though. Especially when hubby decides that a week after the birth of bub we have to go out and spend the day at a family party. I’d rather not go through that again but it was ok. I didn’t bounce back to my prepregnancy weight or anything like that. And pregnancy is different for everybody.
I will admit that i am lucky becuase i tend to bounce back from injuries and trauma pretty easily. I know after my LO was born the nurses were a bit surprised to see me up and walking the next morning (i had an epiiotomy and a 3rd degree tear).
Everyone needs to remember that not everybody is the same. Birth is definitely not glamorous and life isn’t either, but the end result is so worth it.

- - ASparkleKindofLife said
  - 10 May 2015
    8:25 am
Celebrities have people around them to help them bounce back and look/manage the way they do but I don’t it’s totally fair to judge in a negative way when all we see is what’s shown and have no idea what’s behind that. I’m sure there’s been lots of celebrities who had difficult pregnancies, births and more but I’m also sure it’s not something a celebrity would want to be openly talking about if this were the case. Can you imagine having the world knowing your struggles and bringing it up in interviews etc and always shoved at you if its something that’s hard to talk about. If they have had perfect experiences then good on them, it is something that should be enjoyed and I’d be happy for them.
- mom93821 replied
  
  12 May 2015 , 10:39 am
  Good on you for your comments; absolutely agree with you. Unless you walk in someone else’s shoes you do not know their lives. You have a lovely open heart.
- - mom93821 said
  - 10 May 2015
    7:51 am
I have read a mixed bag of stories and some celebrities have shared their difficulties with PND and it can be helpful to other Moms. Jessica Rowe shared her touching story. The Princess of Cambridge had a terrible time with her early pregnancies and I know it helped some other Moms to know that even celebrities suffer with the same conditions as everybody else. I suppose everyone does present their best face with the arrival of their bub. As long as you do what works best for you and your bub.