I must firstly state I do NOT smack my children or agree with smacking under any circumstances and I know there will be many parents that disgaree with me. I constantly see quotes or friends sharing and liking statements about how they were smacked and they grew up with respect and discipline etc and kids these days do not possess these qualities and more should be smacked………. well these same people agreeing with these statements also are AGAINST domestic violence, cruelty to animals and violence of any kind to another human being, but when it comes to smacking children they agree?!?!? So using violence is ok aslong as its to a child, a defenceless child who cannot defend themselves? hmmmmm now you see this is where i really don’t understand. To me violence is VIOLENCE and hitting/smacking children IS abuse which ever way you look at it or define it. How is seeing a parent smack their child for “chucking” a tantrum, or not wanting to leave a toy aisle or throwing food,snatching, not listening etc different to watching grown adults smack/strike another adult (same sex or not) for reasons of their own??? There is NO difference in my eyes, both are wrong but yet there are some who wouldn’t flinch to see a parent smack their child infront of them, but you put two adults in front of them and have one strike another then that person would feel differently and some even call the police because to them that is VIOLENCE. I do not see how smacking teaches these values and morals that are always in question, these are taught because the parent chooses to teach them to their child and enforces this at home in a positive non violent way. Using violence may make your child seem to behave at that moment or thereafter, but thats not because you taught them respect or how to behave with each and any smack you gave them, its because the smack hurt, you scared them and they don’t want another. It is BULLYING and a power trip!!! Very frustrating for a parent like me who is raising my sons in a NON smacking home, teaching them morals through love, respect and by example has to deal with other children who are bullies, rough and resort to striking my child because that is what they have been taught and how they are seeing is acceptable to handle situations. Everyday the news can carry headlines about bullying and sometimes fatal outcomes, we hear of domestic violence and other violent attacks but yet some see it OK to use these methods on their own children. I just don’t get it!!
Posted by Kylie Smith, 6th April 2013