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Let’s look at the reasons for being a stay at home mum. These days choosing to be a stay at home mum is a luxury many of us just can’t afford. But if you can wrangle your finances, having the freedom to be a stay at home mum, is one of the best things you will ever do.

We recently shared a post from one of our mums who shared her stresses of being a working mum:

“I am seriously about to get fired! I am so over being a working mum! Last night, my son had croup and while I was tending to him, all I could think of was how was I going to take yet another day of sick leave or should I be an awful mum and send him to pre-school (PS I didn’t send him to school). Last week, my daughter was home for four days with a bad fever and cold and my hubby and I tag-teamed taking sick leave. Now, it’s my son’s big school orientation next week and I need to somehow get him there at 11am in the morning? Then we’re only 4 weeks away till summer holidays and that’s 6 weeks of the kids being home! I don’t have family around to help out and we can’t afford a nanny. My boss is really understanding but I am sure he will run out of patience soon. We definitely need the money but this working mum gig is so stressful. Would love to hear how other working mums make this whole thing work ’cause I’m crumbling here…”

So Stressful

Many of our wonderful mums offered support and many shared that they were in a similar situation.

One said:

“My life was hell whilst trying to work. Didn’t help that bosses were mostly male that never had to take a day off work in their life because their wife looked after the kids.”

Another commented:

“I’m in the same situation…. I don’t know for how long my bosses will be this good to me, I’m so grateful to them and really appreciate for understanding my situation. But I feel sad they have to compromise for me. And I don’t have other options either”

Others agreed:

“We have found it really hard too and I feel your pain. Both my husband and I were in full time work and really struggling to make it all work and be there for our children.”

Quit And Become A Stay At Home Mum

And many have suggested that being a stay at home mum is the best solution:

One said:

“I quit my job of 12 years a family life and work become too much. I haven’t been happier. I may have less money but we manage, I budget, and I no longer have to stress over how my employer is truly feeling no matter how understanding they sound.”

and another agreed:

“I am a stay at home mom for this reason.”

Full-Time Job

But don’t get me wrong, being a stay at home mum is a job in itself. It may not have the stresses of an office and an employer, but it is bundled with its own stresses. And it’s exhausting and rewarding at the same time.

It’s also a full-time job – you can never really take leave and you obviously don’t get a pay check at the end of the month. (Although many people think a stay at home mum should get a massive salary).

But if you can afford it, the benefits of being a stay at home mother generally do outweigh the drawbacks.

Benefits Of Being A Stay At Home Mum

The Benefits of Being a Stay At Home Mum Include:

  • Being the primary carer for your child – this means being available for your child when they are unwell and having control over what they are doing on a daily basis
  • Spending quality time with your child on a daily basis
  • Being there for all precious milestones and developmental stages
  • Having more time to do household chores and manage the running of the household
  • Being able to drop off and collect your child to and from school
  • Be more involved in your child’s schooling and be able to volunteer for the parent committee

Not For Everyone

However, being a stay at home mum is not for everyone and many women feel the need to go into the workforce for a number of reasons, including financial and emotional motivations and may just not be stimulated enough to stay at home with the kids.

Many stay at home mums suffer from loneliness, boredom and feeling undervalued. In addition, many stay at home mums feel that they need to justify their decision not to work. However, these mums do not need to explain themselves to anyone and if this is working for you and your family, then you are #winning.

Are you a stay at home mum or would you like to be? Tell us in the comments below.

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  • I am a stay at home mum.

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  • How… redundant to tell us that being a stay at home mum is better than working. What about Dad’s? Do they get to stay at home too? What would society look like without the expertise and experience parents bring to the workplace? Who would be the teachers, the shop managers, the doctors, the bloody servo attendants?

    How about if instead of encouraging women to quit their jobs because they feel guilty, we encourage them to take full advantage of every benefit their workplace offers? Instead of feeling bad about taking days off to look after sick kids, they just trade off with their partner (if they have one) and think of it as just a way to make sure they don’t expose other people to illness? Instead of assuming they are a burden to their business they allow themselves to be proud of the fact that their skill and quality well outweigh the occasional morning/day off to deal with children?

    If you are lucky enough to work somewhere where your bosses think that parents are good employees not in spite of but BECAUSE of the experience of being a parent, stop thinking you don’t deserve the flexibility they allow. If you want to stay at home because you love it and find it rewarding, all power to you! If you want to work part or full time for ANY reason, then top feeling guilty about it all and push for your rights.

    Bloody hell, I thought we were past the point of assuming it’s always better to have a stay at home MOTHER.

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  • everyone’s situations and needs are different however if it is desirable and do able for people – bot mums or dads, then it is so worth it. The kids grow up so very quickly and get to a point where they don’t need you as much before you know it.

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  • Yes I haven’t worked since children, they’re now 15, 14, 9 and 6yrs old.

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  • I’d like to be, but we can’t afford it at the moment

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  • Have enjoyed both regimes – working full time with up to three children [good neighbour did some minding for me, paid of course] and then full time mum with the fourth until he was 7. Enjoyed both although sometimes felt guilty going off to work and leaving the little ones – but when no money is forthcoming into the household, then must do what one must do. But I also felt guilty staying home and not helping with the finances – also found that the children were more resilient when I worked than the one I stayed home with. All good in the end, but you just have to do what you feel is right at the time and try to assuage the guilts. Must admit I had great bosses and I was probably the first work at home mum with the work being dropped into me of an evening and picked up first thing in the morn to be taken back to the office – great boss and great fellow workers who worked around my plight when one of the bubs was too ill to leave.

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  • I worked until my kids were adults and it was very difficult to do. I was very lucky because I live in a country town and everyone offered to help me. I hated that I missed all of their milestones and, if I had a choice I wouldn’t have worked and we would have gotten by somehow. I wish you all the best

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  • Yes I chose to be a stay at home mum and homeschooled my son too, so we had so much time together, was fun and rewarding, and most important we were able to share so much together including healthy lunches and outdoor activities. Sure we could not afford as much as others like a holiday but we are lucky to live at the beach so made the most of it, and bike rides in nature to go bird watching. I highly recommend it over money, there are ways to make money from home, doing surveys, selling what you don’t need on ebay and gumtree, and even mystery shopping, might not be a lot of money but it helps. If you are smart you can find a stay at home online business, these days you have so many options and this can be done at night when kids are asleep. Your kids are only kids once and grow up fast, I got to enjoy so much watching my son grow.

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  • I am a stay-at-home mum and I always loved it. My daughter too.

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  • Every mother needs to do what’s best for her.

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  • I work full time and i think at the moment I am okay. but with my son growing older I may reduce my number of days.

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  • I’ve always loved being a stay at home mum. I also fostered children for 30 years-so rewarding.

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  • I’m currently a stay at home mum and I’m so torn…. I’d love to contribute financially to the house and work for my own confidence and independence but I just can’t stand the thought of missing out on any moments with our little “1&done” baby.

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  • I was always a stay at home mum, when I did work my kids came with me. It’s tough financially, not much money to spare, you definitely need to budget

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  • Yes I’m a stay at home and with 2 kids with special needs and all the therapy & specialist appointments it is intense enough and wouldn’t be able to work

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