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Let’s look at the reasons for being a stay at home mum. These days choosing to be a stay at home mum is a luxury many of us just can’t afford. But if you can wrangle your finances, having the freedom to be a stay at home mum, is one of the best things you will ever do.

We recently shared a post from one of our mums who shared her stresses of being a working mum:

“I am seriously about to get fired! I am so over being a working mum! Last night, my son had croup and while I was tending to him, all I could think of was how was I going to take yet another day of sick leave or should I be an awful mum and send him to pre-school (PS I didn’t send him to school). Last week, my daughter was home for four days with a bad fever and cold and my hubby and I tag-teamed taking sick leave. Now, it’s my son’s big school orientation next week and I need to somehow get him there at 11am in the morning? Then we’re only 4 weeks away till summer holidays and that’s 6 weeks of the kids being home! I don’t have family around to help out and we can’t afford a nanny. My boss is really understanding but I am sure he will run out of patience soon. We definitely need the money but this working mum gig is so stressful. Would love to hear how other working mums make this whole thing work ’cause I’m crumbling here…”

So Stressful

Many of our wonderful mums offered support and many shared that they were in a similar situation.

One said:

“My life was hell whilst trying to work. Didn’t help that bosses were mostly male that never had to take a day off work in their life because their wife looked after the kids.”

Another commented:

“I’m in the same situation…. I don’t know for how long my bosses will be this good to me, I’m so grateful to them and really appreciate for understanding my situation. But I feel sad they have to compromise for me. And I don’t have other options either”

Others agreed:

“We have found it really hard too and I feel your pain. Both my husband and I were in full time work and really struggling to make it all work and be there for our children.”

Quit And Become A Stay At Home Mum

And many have suggested that being a stay at home mum is the best solution:

One said:

“I quit my job of 12 years a family life and work become too much. I haven’t been happier. I may have less money but we manage, I budget, and I no longer have to stress over how my employer is truly feeling no matter how understanding they sound.”

and another agreed:

“I am a stay at home mom for this reason.”

Full-Time Job

But don’t get me wrong, being a stay at home mum is a job in itself. It may not have the stresses of an office and an employer, but it is bundled with its own stresses. And it’s exhausting and rewarding at the same time.

It’s also a full-time job – you can never really take leave and you obviously don’t get a pay check at the end of the month. (Although many people think a stay at home mum should get a massive salary).

But if you can afford it, the benefits of being a stay at home mother generally do outweigh the drawbacks.

Benefits Of Being A Stay At Home Mum

The Benefits of Being a Stay At Home Mum Include:

  • Being the primary carer for your child – this means being available for your child when they are unwell and having control over what they are doing on a daily basis
  • Spending quality time with your child on a daily basis
  • Being there for all precious milestones and developmental stages
  • Having more time to do household chores and manage the running of the household
  • Being able to drop off and collect your child to and from school
  • Be more involved in your child’s schooling and be able to volunteer for the parent committee

Not For Everyone

However, being a stay at home mum is not for everyone and many women feel the need to go into the workforce for a number of reasons, including financial and emotional motivations and may just not be stimulated enough to stay at home with the kids.

Many stay at home mums suffer from loneliness, boredom and feeling undervalued. In addition, many stay at home mums feel that they need to justify their decision not to work. However, these mums do not need to explain themselves to anyone and if this is working for you and your family, then you are #winning.

Are you a stay at home mum or would you like to be? Tell us in the comments below.

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  • i wish i could have stayed at home more but i am the main income earner too so always juggled a bit

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  • this is so me!!! juggling being a full time working mum and mum with no help fro other family is stressful daunting and more. but it gives us the financial freedom and save for our future.

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  • I’m lucky to be able to stay at home

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  • I’m in this boat right now. And the stress is killing me. I’d rather be at home then feel judged and talked about behind my back.

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  • I wish I could be but I could never survive without my pay check

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  • I think I would go crazy if I was a full time stay at home mum to be honest. I love the mix of work 3 days (5 hr shifts) and the other 2 at home with my son. I still get half a day with him even on the days I work as Im finished by 1pm, so this works brilliantly for us!

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  • I am stay at home mum only as we cant afford child care even if i will go to work. But i love any minute of it

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  • I think it’s harder (whichever you do) if you don’t have a choice but are forced to work/ be at home through circumstances.

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