This morning we all talked about the story of two mums in California who are both pregnant with boys – and they’re a couple! It was a wonderful celebration of Mums, our paths to pregnancy and the stories we all have to share.
This got us to thinking about how many other 2 Mum families would be in our own MoM community and so posted on facebook asking if any mums would like to share their story.
Today we celebrate Angela Carr and Kellie Hutt; their love, their journey and their beautiful children, Harlow and Eli.
Two and a half weeks ago, Ange and Kellie welcomed their second child into the World on 3 March 2017. A healthy little Eli Thomas born via emergency c-section after a few complications. Their Rainbow Baby.
Kellie carried and delivered baby Eli while Ange cheered her on every step of the way. The moment was filled with love, joy but it was also filled with a painful longing for Eli’s big sister who should have been bouncing around beside them excited to meet her little brother. Harlow should have been nearly two years old. Their Angel Baby.
Kellie shared the story of their journey until Eli’s birth.
“Ange carried our first baby girl however went into pre-term labour at 18 weeks gestation and gave birth to our precious Harlow Sage on 21 July 2015. Devastatingly she was just too tiny to live” Kellie said. “We hope other Mums don’t find this photo of our precious little girl too confronting, but we are proud to share her with the World”.
In the weeks that followed Ange went through several tests which showed that she has a genetic mutation called MTHFR which was the reason behind the two Mums losing their precious little girl at only 18 weeks gestation.
According to MRHFR Support Australia, MTHFR stands for methylene-tetrahydrofolate reductase. It is an enzyme that converts folate you eat into the active form (5-Methyltetrahydrofolate). The folate you eat (DHF – dihyrofolate) has to be converted via many steps to the active folate 5-MTHFR.
The MTHFR enzyme affects this at the last step. So if you have a mutation in the gene then its going to be affecting how much active folate you have available.
Because of this genetic mutation, “Ange effectively had a 50/50 chance of having this happening again and the emotional turmoil we had already gone through together was too much to potentially go through it again. Our safest option was for me to carry our next child as hard of a decision as this was for Ange to make” Kellie told us.
“The pregnancy was stressful and horrible, no mother after a loss could possibly ‘enjoy’ the journey”.
Because we were still grieving for Harlow and we were so stressed and worried, we didn’t ‘announce’ our second pregnancy to the World (so no cute photos to share). Kellie and Ange only shared the news with closest family and friends and then announced on their Facebook pages that little Eli had arrived safe and well the day after he was happily in their arms.
“Eli Thomas is everything we could have hoped for after a long journey through the grief”.
Kellie told us that another special touch along our journey was the support and love of their donor.
“Someone who has been in Ange’s and now my life for around 12 years. Known as ‘uncle’ to our little boy… he will always be in Eli’s life however we are his parents. He gave us not only 1, but 2 precious babies. We wouldn’t have our little family without him”.
“He gave us not 1 but 2 beautiful babies… just 1 is guiding us from up above”.
“My partner Ange and I had our little Rainbow Baby Eli 2.5 weeks ago” Kellie shared with us.
Kellie Hutt and Angela Carr have come a long way. And the road has been filled with bumps but at the end their was a stunning little rainbow. Little Eli Thomas.
They are thankful to friends and family but especially for the support that has been available to both of them during the last few years from a number of organisations. They asked if we would share these amazing organisations in the hope they may help other Mums in need.
We said yes of course. If you, or anyone you know have had to life through the loss of a child in-utero, at birth, as an infant or as a young child, there is always someone who understands and is there to support you.
Do you know a couple with a story that might help other Mums in our community?
Sometimes a story shared is a burden lightened or a friend discovered. Please share this story with them and if they’d like us to publish their story, please have them get in touch with us.
Thanks Kellie and Ange and welcome to the World Eli. We know your beautiful Harlow is in fact watching over you all.
Much love, Nikki x