June 12, 2012




Many years ago on my parenting journey, my young daughter went through a stage where she just wouldn’t go to sleep at night.  It didn’t matter how tired she was, if she had rested or slept during the day or how calming or quiet her evening routine was.  

She was sleep-evasive.







I tried everything – earlier dinnertimes, changing the routine around, leaving on a night-light, singing her to sleep- even sitting in her room with her until she went to sleep. (This could take two hours.)

And nothing really worked.

It was so frustrating and TIME consuming and drove me mad really.

At the end of a day filled with children, all I want to do is to be able to have some quiet, adult time.  You too?  Parenting is hard enough work without it dragging on for hours at the end of a day.  This is when it is really hard to remain calm and centred and patient.  I needed a solution- fast.


A friend suggested dimming the lights (or turning off the main ones and lighting a few lamps instead) in the house once dinner was finished, and giving her a bath in a candle-lit room every single night.  You know what? It worked.


As my upcoming book says, a cosy light-reduced atmosphere allows the child to switch into relax mode and become sleepy. Our goal is to increase serotonin release, the hormone in the body that induces sleep. Bright lights (such as the ones we turn on in our living room and hall globes after dusk) inhibit this process.


It’s a little different for newborn sleeping patterns of course. But we can help them to come into our rhythms a little sooner too, by simply making sure they too have indirect ‘exposure’ to the dawning and setting of the natural light from the sun. (You might, for example, leave the curtains open during the day during their midday sleeps rather than darkening the room).


Dimming or reducing the amount of bright light we are exposed to as the evening wears on can help us all (children, and adults too) to fall asleep so much more easily.  I’d like that. Would you?


Extra tip for parents:  Be ‘light’ aware. Have you noticed that it can be really difficult to fall asleep after a long night of catch-up work on the computer?   This backlit electric light is just as big a culprit. Turn off the computer at least an hour before you need to sleep and read a good book instead. I guarantee you’ll be asleep before you know it.


This post was written by Amber Greene … a Writer and Parenting Educator whose motto in life is to ‘Fire up your Creative Spark!”  She helps women and children around the globe to unveil their creative powers. Amber provides creative strategies for parenting and supports parents to increase their confidence and find more joy and fun in the busy daily slog. Visit her at www.mamamoontime.com for a daily dose of creative inspiration, and free art and crafty activities for both mama and child.

  • Oh Penny05, how hard it must be for you :(


  • All three of my children where bad sleepers. My first child only slept 4hrs in 24hrs for the first 12mths by my second child I was ready for anything an she only slept solid from 5pm till 10.30pm and napped the rest of the time very tiring again with now two children, my third child he would scream every time he was fed till he was six months old, also not able to sleep much . My experience with babies and sleeping was not good.


  • IT is very wearing for the parents when they don’t sleep. But it does get easier as they get older.


  • It still takes me 1+ hours at nap time and nighttime to get my son to sleep. I am constantly angey. Mad. Upset. I have done sleep schools. Books. Forums. Websites. I just have no dedication(at the moment) to do anything s different way. Trial and error in this house last two days. Then old sleep habits come back.


  • We usually do bath time than candle light dinner and always helped


  • Nothing is working for my miss at the moment and I about ready to break…..


  • My babies were both good sleepers, thankfully!


  • I was fully aware of SIDS and the whole back sleeping method however didn’t work for my baby AT ALL. Whilst I never contemplated putting him on his tummy I just rolled a wrap into a log shape and placed him on his side. Worked a treat and without the cost of those side sleepers that are sold. And soothing music or nature sounds in the background. Goodnight :)


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