Grandparents fear today’s children are doomed!

A majority of grandparents surveyed in The Australian Seniors Series: Raising Modern Australia believe children are doomed because of modern parenting styles, with 81 per cent fearing for the future happiness of their grandchildren.

The survey of 1000 grandparents also found nearly three in five believe parenting styles have become somewhat or considerably worse since they were raising children, shared Illawarra mercury.

More than half believe their grandchildren will be much less capable, self-sufficient, resilient, disciplined and have much less moral character.

“They also believe their grandchildren will be negatively impacted by the praise and reward-inspired culture that exists today,” the survey said.

The survey also found parents believe grandparents waved off concerns about dietary requirements and personal safety for children too easily.

When Lynette Honeysett was a child in the 1960s, discipline was swift and sometimes harsh.

“We got smacked with a wooden spoon if we were naughty, and it happened on a regular basis,” she said. “I can remember copping quite a few hidings.”

Ms Honeysett said she believed parents paid too much attention to their smartphones when they were with their children: “It’s a particular bugbear of mine. I say to Joel ‘Get off your phone’.”

She also said we need to avoid helicopter parenting.

“Let her run, fall over,” she said. “If she breaks an arm, she’s going to learn a lesson that way.”

However Dr Justin Coulson is concerned that the ongoing attitude of  “well I turned out okay“ is really not helping.

“We think we turned out okay because we don’t know how we might have turned out had things been different.

“Do you really think that being yelled at or hit with a wooden spoon is going to create better people? I don’t. My feeling is that more kindness will lead to so many improved outcomes for our children. There is so much pain in the world. Better parenting can reduce that pain.”

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  • I think alot of the time we parents are concerned about how others view us and our discipline approach. I will growl at my children, if I have to I will smack them. I do however ensure that I explain why they got in to trouble and then how to make sure they don’t get into trouble again. Sometimes it will be as simple as changing the wording of what they have said to someone especially if it hurt someone’s feelings.

    I think we helicopter more because the media now shares every attempt at kidnapping or missing kid stories so we are more protective of our kids. When I was a kid, I would leave the house after breakfast on my bike with my friends and be home in time for dinner, my mum wouldn’t know where I was because we didn’t have phones to call home, and I can honestly say I would be extremely reluctant to let my daughters do this even with their mobile phones because I don’t trust the kind of society we have right now – too many known cases of horrible things happening to kids that I do not wish to expose my girls to.

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  • When we know better we do better. And our kids will probably learn from us and do better again

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  • We live in a very different environment these days than what our parents and grandparents did. Everyone will always have an opinion on how things were done in their day.

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  • There is a lot of political correctness in discipline these days

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  • I grew up with discipline being dished out when it was deserved. My Grandmother was the one who mostly raised my as Mum was always having to work. Just a look or her saying to me “I’m so disappointed” hurt more than a smack or any other punishment you could think of.

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  • I was smacked and hit with a wooden spoon as a child and I am an asshole. I prefer to parent differently. I think my kids are fairly awesome, most of the time.

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  • I agree with a lot of this. My husband is always on his phone and the kids do notice. I try to minimise the use of mine when the kids are around and actually spend time with them when I can. Life is too short and they won’t be babies forever. I think that there is way too much technology use these days and not enough playing outside- I like to get my kids outside whenever I can and do crafts and play rather than TV. I also may seem like a meany but if my son falls over (which is a lot as he’s clumsy) I just say you’ll be right and keep walking so he learns not to be such a sook.

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  • I agree to some degree. It would be nice if there were a greater balance between how we were raised and how kids were raised today. It seems we’ve gone to such an extreme.

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  • always good to hear different views

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  • We need to progress from wooden spoon parenting, fear does nothing but make kids not trust their parents. Building honest,kind and caring relationships, letting kids be individuals and be creative goes a lot further. Give love, support and encourage them to think for themselves and the rest will follow.

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  • My eldest two were easy kids to raise, we have a little hormone horror once a month but otherwise they are good, my youngest two however really give me a run for my money, they have a decent amount of attitude for me to deal with

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  • Well it’s odd they feel this way. Its is their children that are raising their grandkids… and it was them who raised their children (duh). So maybe they are partly to blame too!! hah!

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  • I don’t think being yelled or hit with a wooden spoon create better people.It makes negative impact on child’s mind.

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  • I see lots of parents being too self-involved to the detriment of their children.

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  • Its so hard to know what is right and what is wrong when it comes to parenting, all we can do is our very best and hope like hell our kids turn out alright and don’t end up hating us for any mistakes we make along the way.

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